Men Open Up About The Times They’ve Been Raped Or Harassed By Women

Contrary to popular belief, sexual abuse doesn't only happen to women.  Indeed, rape, harassment, and assault also can be inflicted upon men.  It's just that, we don't hear about it as often.  Until now, that is.  Per Reddit, men open up about the times they've been raped, harassed, or assaulted by women.  Read on below.

User “starchybunker.” "I’ve told this story here before...might sound familiar. Here's the abridged version. Went out with some good friends when I turned 21. Got drunk (duh). Crashed at their place for the night. Woke to some woman (room-mate of the friends) trying to perform oral sex on me when one of my friends came downstairs and witnesses what was going on and yelled at her. The worst part is that I was never bothered much by the incident but if the reverse happened to a female, of course, I would freak the f*ck out. So the fact that the incident doesn't bother me...bothers me.”

User “realbadatthis.” "I was at a Deftones concert, front row center. If you've ever been front row for a highly attended metal show, you know how tightly crammed in you are and if you're lucky enough to be on the barrier, you hold onto to that spot for dear life. Well a girl came up behind me and was trying to weasel her way into my spot, first by trying to slip under my arm, then by pushing me, and finally kicking my knee area.”

User “realbadatthis.” "I've been to many shows and while this was irregular, it's not unheard of and me being about twice her size, I just kept pushing her away. And then it happened... this crazy b*tch reached over my leg, grabbed my d*ck, and started twisting. My first reaction was shock then blinding anger. It's the closest I've ever come to hitting a woman by far. I didn't but instead grabbed her wrist with as much force as I could muster and wrenched it off my d*ck--I could feel the bones in her forearm clicking together. I then threw her arm back and she moved away, obviously in pain. To this day I hope it still hurts her and that she learned twisting d*cks isn't the way to get to the front of the line.”

User “philmtl.” "I’ve had a woman, pull off my condom then try to ride me. Put another condom on and she's like, im on on the pill don't worry about it. B*tch, I just meet you 2 hours ago and now we're f*cking no way I'm trusting you.”

User “esotericmoon.” "I am a 23 year old gay male. When i was 17 two of my female friends decided while drunk to see if it was possible to give me an erection by holding me down, gyrating, and stroking me. Needless to say, it did not work, and I still don't understand. I never think about it and it hasn't affected my life in a notable way.”

User “Amaroq12.” "A former friend of mine decided she wasn't happy that I chose to start dating my girlfriend instead of her. I was stupid enough to believe her when she said she'd respect that I was with my girlfriend and that she'd back off. A few months into my relationship, I was with her and one of her friends who I didn't know at her house one day when the friend sneaks out (claiming she had to go to the bathroom and never came back).”

User “Amaroq12.” "The next thing I know, my former friend was naked and pushed me onto her bed, stripped me down, put a condom on me, and started riding me. The worst part was that I couldn't move. I should've been easily able to get her off me and/or stop her but I couldn't move or say anything and completely froze. When she got bored, she got off and I got dressed and went home. I originally thought it was a bad dream but realized later that it wasn't. I had nightmares and flashbacks for years (and still get nightmares every now and then) and I still blame myself first for trusting her and second for not being able to stop her.”

User “dankhandofgod.” "Women in high school loved setting me up for dates only in an attempt to humiliate me (fat geek, so I was a mark). It went so far as a group of them tried to make it look like I was the creep by making out, grinding, etc, only to have friends come by so she could start screaming that I was the perv. They didn't think the cunning plan through, and when the cops arrived, looked at me, looked at a group of 7 girls who all claimed I was being pervy, laughed and told me to get lost they'd handle it (both female cops too, FTW). Got a call from the officer later stating that they knew something was up when they claimed that I was forcing myself on them, when it was 7 to 1. The token goody-two-shoes in the group buckled when the law showed up and ratted the whole gang out.

Still to this day don't trust women as far as I can throw them, despite having a wife and a kid now.”

User “sm1lez.” "I was eight years old at an end of the school year party with my second grade class. The party was held at a park, and this lady who I thought was a parent pulled me the side and helped me dry off after the water balloon fight. She manipulated my body and caused a sexual awakening that would make me feel different for the rest of my grade school years. I don't hate the woman, but I've seen her around town involved in the local Mormon community. She called me her little Mexican toy, so I don't know if she even thinks that her actions were wrong."

User “sm1lez.” "As a result, I just don't trust women. I want to and I know I should in most cases, but in the back of my head I suspect that I will be taken advantage of like I was on that day in second grade. When women tease me sexually, I feel like a helpless 8 year old and I can't stand it. Women who know are usually completely insensitive to this fact, because only girls really get molested right? My love life is in shambles, but I still get hit on by women pretty regularly. Of course, I've yet to meet a woman who could be understanding of my feelings when it comes to being manipulated--I'm a man so I most definitely shouldn't have feelings at all.”

Anonymous. "I don't know if this counts since I didn't really care but when I was in New Zealand I went on a kayak tour and since it was cold we had to put on these thermal things the tour company had.

You had to strip down to your underwear to put these things on and the women were given a changing area while the men were not. I stripped down and as I was putting these things on I turn around and see a group of women taking pictures and videos of me in nothing but a pair of white boxer briefs (which don't leave much to the imagination.

I didn't really care and they just giggled it off but it did cross my mind that if a man did that he'd be arrested.”

User “Bahvroon.” "I don't consider this rape, but one of my ex girlfriends used to indirectly pressure me to have sex. It seems that being a man you would want to do it all the time. But doing it more than once or twice a day starts to get painful. It came to the point where when I would tell her that I did not want to she would tell me how no other guy would refuse it and how I must not love her enough. The more we did it the more unpleasant it became, to the point of it even hurting at times. It became a chore and I ended up not enjoying it as much.”

User “I_Am_Stephen_AMA.” "Where I used to work a woman grabbed my crotch multiple times. But the manager didn't care. They (upper management) basically said that since I was a man I should be happy it's happening. I left and never looked back. I just want to say that it's absolute bullshit. People regardless of gender should get in deep shit for stuff like that. There was another time when I was young and a group of girls beat me and shoved a pine cone up my ass. They also got off with nothing but a slap on the wrist.”

Anonymous. "I was beaten, raped, and tortured by a ‘friend’ of mine. The first time it happened, well, I don't remember much. I woke up and she was holding me, cooing, and I remember my anus feeling sore, but otherwise, nothing else.

The second time, for which I had went to go over for an explanation about the first time, she was drunk when I entered (bad idea), and I was anally raped for about an hour. She let me go after that.”

Anonymous. "The third time was the worst. I went to confront her, and when I got there, she knocked me unconcious. I woke up, bent over a sofa, as she raped me with a strap-on. I was then dragged to her bathroom, where I was tied into her bathtub, and was electrocuted, whipped, and finally, cut with a paring knife, the scars of which I still have on my abdomen and left arm. She also branded my left cheek with a Bic stick lighter. 4 hours in, I managed to untie myself (shitty knots), and when I crawled out of the bathroom, she caught me, and told me if I was to do it again, she would kill me. I endured another hour of torture, including her driving a thin nail through my scrotum. My escape came when she went out to clean the blood off, and I slipped out of the ropes, and stumbled through the door."