Ah, there's nothing quite like the wonder that is an orgasm. For women, orgasms may not happen quite as quickly as they do for men, but that just adds to the appeal. That's what makes you appreciate them so much more. The thing is, though, reaching an orgasm through penetrative sex isn't quite as easy as reaching it through masturbation or oral sex. But that's not to say it isn't possible. Like anything worth achieving, it just takes a little extra work. Keep reading to find out if women can learn how to climax from penetration alone.
Oh, the possibilities! As impossible as achieving an orgasm might seem for some women, pulling it off while you’re in the sack isn’t necessarily impossible. It might not be the easiest thing to pull off, but if you’re willing to give it the old college try, then you may actually face certain success sooner than you ever expected.
The rarity of the female orgasm. If a woman wants to orgasm, she’ll figure out a way. But when she’s in bed with someone, reaching that orgasm with mere penetration may cause quite a few setbacks. According to Cosmopolitan, as sought after as it might be, “it’s rare for a woman to have an orgasm during sex.”
Gifted. It seem as though some women are just naturally gifted in the act of orgasming during penetration. But then again, maybe they’re not as gifted as you think. Maybe they just know something you don’t know. Maybe they’ve been educated in the art of penetration orgasms.
Learning the secrets. Since this is a fairly universal topic, plenty of men and women have dug deep to get a better understanding of not only why this is an issue, but how to fix it. Author Ian Kerner wrote “She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide To Pleasuring A Woman” and tried to get a better grasp of the subject.
The rarity. In order to reach a “vaginal orgasm” (which is to say, an orgasm reached through penetration alone), the difficulty meter will more or less spike through the roof. There are necessary factors that simply require more than just the guy’s penis. Basically, a woman’s vagina has buttons, and those buttons need to be pressed. Otherwise, it’s a no-go on the “O.”
The stimulants. To reach an orgasm through penetration alone, a woman’s clitoris needs to be stimulated, according to Kerner. Now, once the clitoris is stimulated, it can be “enhanced with the G-spot,” but it’s not going to necessarily be the same thing. It’s more or less a situation of being as good as it gets.
A second opinion. While Kerner isn’t totally sold on the idea of a woman being able to accomplish a vaginal orgasm during penetration, sex expert Emily Morse thinks there may be a solution. But if you’re willing to follow her advice, then you’ll have to start becoming one with Kegels.
The Kegel workout. Any worth having is worth working for, and the same can be said for vaginal orgasms. Morse’s advice is to essentially strengthen the vagina in order to make finding the G-spot much easier to accomplish. But that begs the question as to why the G-spot is important in this situation, seeing as it’s not quite the same thing as the clitoris…
One and the same. According to the Yale Daily News, a Yale urologist pointed out that the G-spot and clitoris are more or less one and the same; the G-spot is essentially “an extension of the clitoris.” This is precisely why Morse wants women to focus on the G-spot. It’s going to help you out in the long run on that desperate quest for a vaginal orgasm.
Changing positions. As you might’ve guessed, what position you’re in while you’re having sex will play a role in whether or not you can orgasm from penetration alone. So once you’ve been owning those Kegels, harnessing the power of your vagina and making sure you can stimulate your G-spot without much of a struggle, you’re off to a great start.
Doggy style. When a guy is entering you from behind, and you’re on all fours, reaching the holy grail of orgasms will be closer than you ever imagined. When you’re in this position, hitting your G-spot will be more or less a cinch. But if you can’t reach it this way, there’s an alternative position.
On top. Even though doggy may be a more comfortable position, sitting on top gives you a hell of a lot more control. You don’t have to rely on him knowing where to focus because you’re literally leading the show. You know where it feels good, so just follow your body’s directions.
Orgasm woes. If you’re not only having trouble reaching an orgasm through penetration alone, but reaching an orgasm in general, you’ll want to take a step back and assess your situation. When your body’s not working the way it’s supposed to, it can be scary, but knowing that there are clear and fixable reasons is all the relief you’re likely to need.
Medicated. If you’re taking certain medications, you may want to find out if one of the side-effects has to do with your sex life. According to Michael Krychman, MD, via Cosmopolitan, if you’re taking medications to treat anxiety or depression, you may run into some problems. This is an easy fix, though. Just talk to your doc.
Hope. If you really want that vaginal orgasm, but you’re not seeing any results, don’t give up. Bodies are weird, vaginas are complicated and orgasms can be little b*tches sometimes. So, if you’re putting in the effort, don’t give up hope. You’re likely to luck out soon enough.
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