Many of us already know from experience that dirty talk increases sexual pleasure, but sexual psychologists and researchers have actually been looking into the matter with greater attention. As scientists are wont to do, they've asked the question of why dirty talk is so powerful, and they've come up with some intriguing and insightful answers. For example, what do you think the post powerful sex organ is? The penis? The vagina? Wrong and wrong. Your brain does most of the heavy lifting. Check it out.
The brain is the most powerful sex organ. The nerve endings in our genitalia are extremely sensitive and stimulating those nerve endings does get us off, but they can only do that with the help of the brain interpreting those signals correctly. The brain is also an important sex organ in that your imagination can enhance your physical experience. It's a powerful thing.
Mental and physical stimulation. Frequently, we talk about how external and internal stimulation for women is extremely important in helping them reach orgasm. Similarly, simultaneous mental and physical stimulation is also crucial. You can be physically stimulated in all the right ways, but it might do nothing if your mind isn't in the right place.
Why dominant women like being given dirty talk. Sexual psychologists have also surmised that dominant women like when their partner gives them dirty talk in bed because it differs so drastically from their every day lives. Powerful women who are strong in their jobs and other aspects of their lives like being more submissive in bed because it stimulates an area of the brain called the amygdala. The amygdala is the region known as the "fear center" and is super involved in excitement and pleasure.
Verbalizing our desires. Talking during sex is great for keeping communication open in your relationship. It also helps us verbalize our desires to our partner, which in the end is what makes them get satisfied in reality.
Fantasy fullfilment. Engaging in dirty talk can be a way of feeling like we've fulfilled certain sexual desires that we don't actually fulfill in a physical way. When we talk to each other, we can come up with any scenario we want and make it sexy, even if it's realistically impossible to achieve.
Less anxiety. Dirty talk actually helps reduce anxiety in the bedroom. If you feel comfortable enough to vocalize something, you'll feel comfortable when you're going through the actual physical aspect of it as well.
More confidence. The less anxious you are, the more confident you can be. The more confident you both are in the bedroom, the better the sex will be for the both of you. You'll be more willing to try new things and give all of your effort.
Layering your sexual activity. Adding dirty talk to your sex adds another layer to your overall experience. When something is more dynamic, you can enjoy it in multiple ways as opposed to just one. Make your sex spicier and start chatting.
Emotional component. Dirty talk can also be emotional. Not all naughty chatter has to be impersonal. Communicating your love for your partner within your dirty talk adds an emotional component to your sex that can also greatly heighten your satisfaction.
Get in the mood. Dirty talk can help bring you out of your shell. Like candles and romance, a little dirty talk can help get you in the mood for something super steamy. Get out of your own headspace and have some X-rated fun!
Dirty talk can result in orgasm. Not only can dirty talk turn you on and get you hard or wet, but it can actually bring you to sexual climax. Your brain does a lot of the work during sex, even though you think it's a very physical activity. The right words can send you over the edge.
Lowers inhibitions. Participating in dirty talk lowers your inhibitions. Like alcohol or any other social lubricant, dirty talk can help you let your guard down and get into character.
Madonna-Whore Complex. Dirty talk is an avenue of exploring the popular Madonna-Whore Complex. For instance, your girl could be nice and polite in her daily life, but when she gets in the sheets she likes to be naughty as hell. It can be a big turn-on having a clean mouth whisper dirty words.
Make sure you're good at it. As much as hot dirty talk can turn a person on, poorly executed dirty talk can kill a flame faster than a tidal wave. For most people talking dirty comes pretty naturally, but if you need practice, don't be afraid to consult your friends, or the internet, for help.
Boundaries. Just like with physical actions in the bedroom, you have to be aware of your partners limitations and boundaries. If she's turned on by being called your slut in bed, go ahead and do it for her. If you say it once and she very much makes it clear to you that that's not cool, don't do it ever again. You both need to be comfortable.
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