What Style Of Sex Are You, Based On Your Zodiac

A lot of us talk a big game when it comes to how we perform in the bedroom, but it doesn't necessarily represent us as we really are. It's all just a bunch of pre-game guff before the big game. Some of us, however, truly are gods and goddesses of the bedroom. Our style of sex is one to be admired. What it all comes down to, in the end, is personality — though even more specifically, what it all comes down to is whatever's in the stars. If you're a lame lay, they know. If you're the best around, they know. Basically, no matter what, there's no hiding your sexual abilities. Keep reading to find out what style of sex you are, based on your Zodiac.

Aries. One night stand. If the phrase, “Hit it and quit it” makes you roll your eyes, then you’re clearly not an Aries. As an Aries, you’re too busy to be locked down. You’re uncontrollable. You’re the kind of person who sings the “On to the next one” in their head all day.

Taurus. Dominance and power. Deep down, you’re a sweetheart. You really are. But that’s not to say you can’t be a dominant powerhouse in the bedroom — which is exactly what you are. When you’re “giving it,” you’re giving it your all. Spectators should take notice (but then you should maybe ask people why there are spectators around in the first place).

Gemini. Versatile sex. Screw standards. Screw labels. When it comes to how you want to enjoy sex, there shouldn’t be any rules — a concept that should extend to every other walk of life. If you want to play one role one day and then another role the next, go for it. Nothing is stopping you.

Scorpio. Rough sex. Whether you’re getting it or giving it, you want it done hard. You want sex to make you sweat and to make you wonder if what you’re doing is possibly going too far. There are limits in life, but you’d rather not bring any of them into the bedroom — whenever possible.

Aquarius. Group sex. You may need two to tango, but with a roomful of people, you can have a raucous jubilee. That’s how your mind works. You want more. You crave more. So if you’re going to indulge in a pleasurable pastime, you’re going to leave out as few people as possible.

Libra. Sweet, sweet, love-making. You’re a lover, not a fighter. Or anything else entirely, for that matter. Charming your way into any situation is where you excel, and you had better believe you bring that to the bedroom. Some people f*ck. You make love.

Leo. Experimental. You’re the kind of person who’s open to new experiences, and it shows with how you open you are with your sexuality. Though everyone else seems to have a pretty clear cut approach to making love, you prefer your lovemaking to come with a side order of surprise.

Capricorn. Rudimentary sex. Let’s get down to brass tax. There’s work to be done (AKA sex). When you approach lovemaking, this is how you handle it: “Lady or gentleman, what we have here is a sexual interaction. First, we’ll acquire arousal, then promptly move into thrusting, after which an intense ejaculation, from either one or both parties, will finalize the physical link.”

Sagittarius. Vanilla sex. There’s nothing wrong with playing it safe. Some people live their lives that way, and as a result, they’re happier. So when it comes to what you bring to the bedroom, “Safe” is your middle name — a fact of which you’re surprisingly proud.

Virgo. Nervous sex. It’s only natural that you would have a neurotic approach to sex, seeing as you have the same approach to most other things. Now, in your defense, you’re efficient AF, but as a result, your brain is oftentimes going haywire. You’re focused on so many details all at once that you rarely actually enjoy the moment.

Cancer. Emotional sex. Some people have sex just for the fun of, because it makes them feel good, but you’re a completely different beast in this department. Though you’re all for the physical pleasure, your pleasure is more of an emotional experience. Crying after sex? Check. Crying during sex? Check. Crying before sex? Sure, why not…

Pisces. Masturbation. Who needs a partner when you’ve got such a vivid imagination? You work well alone. Don’t let anyone tell you that’s a bad thing. Some of the greatest minds do their best work when they’re left to their own devices, and you’re not different — even when it comes to getting off.

Sexually Monogamous Relationships Decrease Male Libido, According To Pscyhology

We’ve all heard of the idea that sexual monogamy isn’t biologically natural. But now, there’s a modern twist to it:  Not only is sexual monogamy not inherently “normal,” it can also take a tax on the human libido. Actually, we should clarify — a non-polyamorous relationship can kill the libido, specifically. We know what you're thinking: As if men needed more excuses to sleep around. Still, there is some concrete research to back the theory up. Unfortunately. Here, we take a look at how and why sexually monogamous relationships decrease the male sex drive.

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. In a piece titled “An Inconvenient Truth: Sexual Monogamy Kills Male Libido,” co-author of the New York Times best seller, “Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, And What It Means for Modern Relationships,” Christopher Ryan, Ph.D., suggests that being in a monogamous, long-term relationship decreases a male’s sex drive. In other words, being with the same person for a long period of time can inherently make you — assuming you’re a man— not want to have sex with your partner.

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. Ryan states that for most guys in long-term sexually monogamous relationships, a consistent decrease in libido has everything to do with biology and hormones — regardless of the particular partner they’re with. This means that even the sexually-mongamous husband of the most beautiful woman on the planet will start to stray at some point or another.

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. Why? Because human beings are evolved for sex lives featuring multiple simultaneous sexual partners, according to Ryan. This is especially true when it comes to — yep, you guessed it — men.

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. "Men, especially, are designed by evolution to be attracted to sexual novelty and to gradually lose sexual attraction to the same partner in the absence of such novelty,” Ryan says, adding that, "Boys will be boys, and men will be the way they are, despite the many ways our society tries to make them change.”

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. In 1979, Ryan notes, anthropologist Donald Symons said: “Human males seem to be so constituted that they resist learning not to desire variety despite impediments such as Christianity and the doctrine of sin; Judaism and the doctrine of mensch; social science and the doctrines of repressed homosexuality and psychosexual immaturity; evolutionary theories of monogamous pair-bonding; cultural and legal traditions that support and glorify monogamy.”

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. What Symons is basically saying is that men will risk a lot — heck, they’ll even risk it all — to have sex with someone other than their partner. Need we name the overwhelming amount of public scandals involving public male figures cheating on their wives with younger mistresses? We didn’t think so.

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. Ryan explains that there are two common misconceptions about men who face a decrease in libido while in a sexually monogamous relationship. The first, is that there’s something wrong with them. He writes: "There’s something wrong with men who experience flagging libido in the context of a long-term sexually monogamous relationship (they’re emotionally immature victims of the dreaded Peter Pan Complex, they have issues with their mother, they’re addicted to porn, they’re afraid of emotional commitment, etc.)."

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. And the second, is that there’s some easy, wonderful way to take on the problem that’ll make it simply disappear. "There’s some magical way to address this problem that’ll make it go away,” he says. But in Ryan's words, these two misconceptions are, “Wrong and wronger.”

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. At the beginning of the sexual revolution in 1964, Masters and Johnson pointed out that “Loss of coital interest engendered by monotony in a sexual relationship is probably the most constant factor in the loss of an aging male’s interest in sexual performance with his partner.” In other words, routine sex bores men — to the point where they no longer have the desire for it.

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. Masters and Johnson further said that, “such a man may be rejuvenated by having sexual intercourse with a younger woman, although the young woman may not be as adept a lover as his wife.” But as Ryan notes, "Our research suggests that the age of the other woman is less important to this effect than is her otherness.”

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. The reality of the situation is that all sexually monogamous couples — who have been together for more than a few years — have experienced a mismatch of sexual desire. "Sexual desire fluctuates for each of us in accordance with many factors: seasons, work and financial pressures, pregnancy and child-care issues, the death or suffering of loved ones, overall physical health, age, etc.,” Ryan says.

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. In terms of other research which says that a mismatch of desire need result in loss of all intimacy, Ryan calls the belief “absurd and destructive.” "To be sure, sex can be an important part of intimacy, but it is not the essence of intimacy itself,” he explains.

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. "In fact, high-libido sex can easily be an expression of the utter absence of true intimacy: the notorious one-night stand,” he continues. "Couples who do not understand this are unlikely to survive for long.”

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. Ryan adds: "In fact, couples might find themselves having the most meaningful conversations ever if they have the courage to talk openly about these fluctuations in desire… to make it easier for couples to make their way across this difficult emotional terrain together, with a deeper, less judgmental understanding of where these inconvenient feelings come from and a more informed, emotionally mature approach to dealing with them."

Monogamous relationships decrease sex drive. Is it just men who experience this decrease in libido, however? Maybe not. "If the truth be known women go through the same thing,” one woman commented on the post. "After years and years of really good sex with my partner I lost interest but still loved him. An occasional fling is good for my own libido! Practice safe sex and all is well — and sex with my partner sparks again."

Why I Call My Sexual Partner “Daddy”

Baby. Darling. Honey. Babe. Booboo Bear. Hot Stuff. Sure, there’s an almost endless list of pet names you could have for your significant other. But people tend to get particularly tense when you throw the term “Daddy” into the mix. And what exactly is the psychology behind why people call their sexual partners “Daddy” anyway? Well we were curious as well so we did a bit of research and you’ve got to keep reading to figure out what we learned. Here's why some people call their sexual partner "Daddy" in bed. Who knows.. Maybe you'll find out that you like it more than you ever knew.

Sound off. On a DISQUS forum titled “5 Reasons Men Like Being Called Daddy” people discussed the many reasons they enjoy calling or being called “Daddy” in bed. The larger majority of people participating were in support of the pet name, while a few critics thought it was a bit too taboo for them to indulge in.

Feeling. HeadMistress wrote, “I don’t think there is anything wrong with calling your man Daddy - if it feels natural by all means.” She personally has never used the term in a sexual circumstance, but says she doesn’t think there’s anything incestuous or sick about using it. She thinks of it simply as a term on endearment.

Public. Some people think the term shouldn’t leave the confines of your bedroom. User kiwi wrote, “it’s not bad in bed but calling him daddy in public is not really appropriate.” She went on to say that those who use the term are “always searching for that father figure” if their father figure was absent and that over time the roles will become confused.

Meaning. User Daddy’s Mama brings up an interesting point as far as meaning goes. “When I’m intimate, I don’t imagine f*cking my father and for those whose minds go there,” she wrote. “You’re the one with the hang up lol.” She went on to say that societally it is rare to see men built up instead of torn down.

Daddy. “I don’t care if you call your man daddy, Tarzan, mandingo, etc.,” she wrote. “Rarely do we build up. So to the commenter who has a problem with someone being called Daddy in public? You’ll definitely have a problem with me-but ask me do I gave a good god damn!” Let’s explore this point about meaning and connotation that the user brought up.

Connotation. There is a profound difference between what a wrote “connotes” and what a word “denotes” in terms of meaning. Connotation is, according to Merriam-Webster, “an idea or quality that a word makes you think about in addition to its meaning.” Denotation is, according to the same dictionary, “The meaning of a word or phrase.”

Difference. The literal definition of the word “Daddy” according to Merriam-Webster is “a person’s father.” So when the large majority of people think of the word, they may be thinking of it’s literal denotation, as opposed to its connotation, which is anything else you associate with the term. Someone who uses “Daddy” in the bedroom is most likely thinking of their connotation of the word.

Roles. Bethy Squires wrote about why exactly women call their partners “Daddy” for Broadly. Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin told Squires that she had met more than a few women who thought a desire to use the term “Daddy” in bed was an indicator of daddy issues. Marin talked a bit about meaning and how it relates to roles.

Daddy. “I’ve heard from a fair amount of men who were turned off by it, and were worried that it was an indicator of ‘daddy issues,’” Marin told Squires. Daddy can be, according to Marin, both an indicator of someone who is a father, but also someone who is the boss as far as roles go. She says that’s what most women are aiming for when they use the term.

Father. “I’ve never run across a woman who called her partner ‘daddy’ because she genuinely liked fantasizing that he was her father,” Marin told Squires. And according to Squires, the "general consensus on Reddit was that women call their partners ‘daddy' because they are into submitting to male authority figures.” Squires then spoke with her mother, Dr. Margaret Squires.

Daddy-talk. Dr. Margaret Squires, according to her daughter, works in couples therapy. She has also worked with survivors of childhood sexual abuse for over three decades. “I think that when that language comes up, it’s just as likely to be in a healthy relationship,” Dr. Margaret Squires said. “You’re getting back to very early warm attachments."

De-self. "[People in these relationships] erase any part of themselves that bothers the other person,” Dr. Margaret Squires said. "They fail to recognize that they have rights.” Her daughter continued on to say that “she recognized that daddies could possibly de-self, erasing the childlike part of themselves that needs to be nurtured."

BDSM. User auroaskies on a Reddit thread explained the concept of using the term “Daddy” a bit further, stating that it usually relates to daddy-dominance, aka BDSM. "In the dd/lg scene there is usually no connection to woman actually seeing this man as their father,” she wrote. "They are mostly called daddy because they are caring and nurturing in the relationship towards the woman, like a daddy is to their daughter."

Critics. Carolinablue199 wrote, “I am a woman and I have no clue why some women do this. I find it to be creepy.” At the end of the day, let’s chock the whole thing up to a “to each his own” type thing. As long as it’s consensual and no one is getting hurt, who are we to judge.

You. What do you think? Do you think it’s inappropriate or incestuous to use the term “Daddy” within the confines of your bedroom? Or do you think it’s really up to whoever is involved in the relationship to decide what is and isn’t crossing the line? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section below.

Sexy Games You’re Not Playing In Bed Yet

Okay, let’s try a little word association. When we say the word “games,” what comes to mind? You’re probably thinking about Scrabble, Monopoly, Boggle, Trivial Pursuit, Pictionary, UNO, Operation — like actual board games or card games. What about “sexy games?” What comes to mind when you hear those words. Perhaps Naked Twister? We’re talking about something a little sexier than that. Keep reading to find out the sexy games you're not playing in bed just yet, but the ones you should definitely try out sometime this week. How's tonight work for you?

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Warmer or colder. Pick a spot on your body. Let’s say maybe the small of your back. But you can decide. Now, have your partner guess the spot on your body that you’re thinking about. Let them know if they’re getting colder or warmer based on how close or far away they are from getting it right.

Two truths and a lie. Sure, it’s childish, but hear us out. Stand on opposite sides of the room facing each other fully clothed. One of you will tell two truths and a lie. If the other guesses incorrectly, they strip. If they guess correctly, you strip. Keep playing until you don’t care who’s lying and who is telling the truth anymore.

The stand. Stand at opposite sides of the room, facing each other, completely nude. Then walk slowly toward each other. This could work in the hallway as well. Keep walking toward each other until you’re almost touching noses then just stand and wait to see who breaks and touches the other first. Either way, you both win.

Timer. Grab a kitchen timer. Turn it to a certain amount of time when your eyes are closed, don’t peek. When you open them, let your partner know how much time they’ve got. 1 minute. 3 minutes. 45 seconds. They’ve got that amount of time to do whatever they want to you, and only that amount of time. Then it’s your turn.

Timer. Another thing you can do with the timer. Turn it to a certain amount of time when your eyes are closed, don’t peek. When you open them, let your partner know how much time they’ve got. Then tell them they have that amount of time to make you orgasm, or there will be punishment. See how hard your partner works to get you off.

What’s in my mouth. This is a variation of the cold and hot game. Sean Jameson described the game in detail for YourTango. First off, you’ve got to bring him somewhere where you two can be alone. It doesn’t even have to be the bedroom. But make sure it’s somewhere where you wouldn’t mind making a mess.

Mouth. Next, put something in your mouth while his eyes are closed. “Take a little scoop of ice cream into your mouth and start to very slowly give him oral sex,” Jameson writes. You’ll shock him if you do this too quickly, so be careful. He’ll then guess what it is in your mouth.

Right. If he guesses correctly, you can reward him by continuing to pleasure him a bit more. If not, you’ll have to punish him. Make sure it’s something consensual that you both agree on. Maybe a spanking. "Next, you can then switch to something completely different ... like some warm honey,” Jameson continues.

Games. Vanessa Marin also wrote a bit about sexy games for Bustle. The guessing game was her first suggestion. Have your partner promise to keep their eyes closed, and blindfold them. Have them lie down on the bed, and once you’re sure they can’t see a thing, prepare the items.

Items. Marin suggests a paddle, a silk scarf of neck tie, an ice cube, a feather, or body-safe candle wax. "As they’re being touched with each item, the sub has to guess what the item is,” Marin writes. "A correct guess might elicit a reward, while an incorrect one might earn a ‘punishment,' like spanking."

Sensory deprivation. We’re cutting out the senses in this game. You can blindfold your partner. Put noise-cancelling headphones on them. Put something over their mouth so they can’t moan (make sure this is okay first before trying). “Or tie the sub to the bed, so they can’t touch the Dom,” Marin writes.

Control. Clothing is a very fun element to play with in the bedroom. Try allowing your partner to take control of you, or vice versa. “Allow the Dom to pick what the sub wears,” Marin writes. "The Dom can choose sexy lingerie, accessories, or role-playing outfits, or demand that the sub be naked all day.”

From afar. Have your partner lie down on the bed. You’ll be in the other room. You’ll both have your phones. Text your partner to do something to themselves and send a video or picture confirming they’ve done it. You can up the ante until you both are racing from other side’s of the house to have sex.

Doll. We thought this one was particularly fun. Turn your partner into a sex doll for the night. Marin writes, "The sub tries their best to remain still and not make a noise. The Dom can position the sub as they like and do what they please.” It’s important to have a safe word, Marin explains. And to establish boundaries before play.

You. What do you think? What are some of the sexy games you and your partner play together? Were any of these suggestions something you two would be interested in? Did we leave anything out? Let us know in the comments section below. You know we had to ask!