Women Who Orgasm More Frequently Have These Things In Common

No woman orgasms every single time.  That said, it’s not impossible.  So, what’s the secret to ladies who orgasm more often than not?  Turns out, there are five.  Below, we highlight the five things women who orgasm more frequently have in common.

They masturbate. Surprise, surprise: Women who orgasm more frequently masturbate on the regular. Not only does playing with yourself feel amazing and lead to endless Os, it’s also a great way to get to know yourself real well, if you know what we mean. Like, what better way is there to know what you do or don’t like pleasure wise?

They masturbate. Don’t believe us? Fine. Then listen to an expert on the matter: "Women who masturbate on a regular basis have become experts on their own bodies and know where the best 'feel-good' spots are,” Fran Walfish, Psy.D., an expert panelist on the WE tv series, "Sex Box," told Women’s Health. "They know how much pressure, tempo, speed, lightness, and every single nuance of touch, direct or indirect, on their clitorises they need in order to orgasm.”

They masturbate. Not only does masturbating make you an expert on your own body, however: It also makes you much more likely to get off when your partner is involved. "When you know what is exciting and arousing, your partner can enhance it," Jane Greer, Ph.D., New York-based marriage and sex therapist and author of "What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship,” explained to Women’s Health.

They focus on the clitoris. Second thing women who orgasm more frequently do? Pay attention to their clitoris like it’s their job. It’s no secret that most ladies require stimulation of the C-spot in order to reach that big O. And if you’re one of these women, it’s important that you hone in on it — and take advantage.

They focus on the clitoris. "A much smaller percentage of women reach orgasm solely through G-spot stimulation, via penetration,” Walfish told Women’s Health. In other words, most women aren’t climaxing through P-to-V penetration. Instead, they’re crossing that finish line other ways — a.k.a. the ever-magical clitoris.

They focus on the clitoris. So if you want to start orgasming more frequently with your partner, pay attention to your C-friend. Whether they give it some love with their hand or a toy doesn’t matter. The key thing is that it gets focused on so that you can experience that very big — and very pleasurable — payoff. You’re welcome.

They include foreplay. Third quality of orgasmic women? They don’t skip — or rush through — foreplay. While most men underestimate the power of warming up, women are no stranger to it: They need it in order to not just “oil” up, but reach that final, toe-curling destination.

They include foreplay. "Foreplay is very important,” Greer explained to Women’s Health. "It’s what helps you build up excitement and momentum during the sexual experience, allowing you to get turned on enough so you can orgasm.” Like we said: Women need it.

They include foreplay. Unfortunately, there’s no set time on how much foreplay women require. That said, five to 20 minutes is a good rule of thumb. "Slow and steady buildup is the most important thing—soft kissing, kissing the nipples, stroking the breasts, moving your hands toward the vagina but not yet touching,” Greer told Women’s Health. “Anything that builds excitement and awakens your senses to sexual stimulation."

They’re vocal. Newsflash: If you’re not vocal about what you want in the bedroom, you’re never going to get what you want. Like, duh. Women who orgasm frequently know this, and as a result, they speak the eff up. Always.

They’re vocal. So, don’t be shy. Make sure you’re letting your partner know what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you need more of. Feeling nervous about it? Don’t be: This helps him out, too. Remember: Your partner wants you to orgasm. (And if they don’t, kick ‘em to the curb!)

They’re vocal. "Communicating what turns you on and what excites you relaxes your partners and enables them to be more tuned in and focused on getting you aroused,” Greer explained to Women’s Health. "To avoid feeling awkward while communicating this, simply say, 'I love it when you do that,' or, 'That really turns me on and excites me.’” Easy enough, right?

They don’t stress it. Last, but certainly not least, women who frequently orgasm don’t stress out about, well, orgasming. Sounds counterintuitive, we know. But the truth is, it works. "If you want to orgasm every time, stop looking for it or expecting it to happen every time,” Greer told Women’s Health.

They don’t stress it. “The more relaxed you are the quicker you’ll orgasm,” Greer continued. Overall, feeling stressed or anxious in the bedroom disconnects you from the pleasure — and orgasms — you could otherwise be experiencing. You don’t want that, do you? We didn’t think so.

Bottom line. The takeaway? If you want to get off every time you have sex with your partner, do these five things: Masturbate, focus on your C-spot, foreplay it up, speak up, and relax. Happy climaxing!