Ejaculation Is The Wettest And Wildest Thing You Can Get Your Girl To Do

Contrary to popular belief, female ejaculation isn’t a myth or some adult film special effect. In other words, yes, women. Oh, and pro tip: Keep a towel on hand.

A refresher course. First and foremost, it’s important to know what female ejaculation is. "Before talking about squ*rting, it's important to know a little bit about the female anatomy," psychologist and sexual expert Dr. Rachel Needle told AskMen.com. "Female ejaculation is characterized by the expulsion of a significant quantity of fluid from the woman's urethra during orgasm. Many people refer to this as ‘squ*rting' or 'gushing.’"

Her body. We know what you’re wondering: How do I make my girlfriend gush tonight? Unfortunately, it’s not that easy. There are a slew of physical reasons why a woman’s body responds in such a way, and it’ll be hard to begin the process of getting your gal to experience it without knowing exactly what's happening in her body to get her to release, so to speak. In other words, to get your girl to ejaculate, you need to know what’s happening to her physically.

The G-spot. Unsurprisingly, female ejaculation has a lot to do with the ever-elusive G-spot. "Female ejaculation is often associated with the G-spot, which is said to be located in the anterior vaginal wall, halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix along the urethra. While everyone has heard of the G-spot, many people don't know about the Skene's glands," Needle told AskMen.com.

Skene’s glands. What are the Skene’s glands, you ask? "Skene's glands are sometimes referred to as the 'female prostate' for anatomical analogy,” Needle explained to AskMen.com. "The male prostate is responsible for generating most of the content of seminal fluid. By analogy, the 'female prostate' is thought to produce the content of female ejaculate.”

Stimulation. Whether it’s through intercourse or finger play, every woman’s G-spot can be stimulated in such a way to cause them to feel a deeper, more intense pleasure. However, not every woman’s Skene’s glands — or prostate — are developed enough to make large amounts of female ejaculate, Needle explained. Not to mention, a girl might not even be aware that her partner is starting to stimulate those glands as the sensation often feels the same as having to pee, so most women hold back.

Ejaculation and orgasm. If your girl ejaculates, does it means it’s the best orgasm she’s ever had? Not necessarily. During sex — whether it’s penetrative or oral — the moment that feels the best for men is when they’re releasing into or on their partner. That same moment feels just as amazing for women — with or without ejaculation.

Dry orgasm versus wet. As AskMen.com points out, a mind-blowing climax is a mind-blowing climax; it doesn’t require a fluid release to be pleasurable. "There is little evidence that stimulating the G-spot or an ejaculatory orgasm is more enjoyable or intense. More lubrication is not equivalent to greater orgasmic intensity or pleasure, and emitting a fluid is not prima facie evidence for greater arousal or more pleasure,” Needle told AskMen.com. "Most women don't ejaculate with orgasm, and their orgasms and sexual response are still just as pleasurable as those who do.”

So, how does it happen? Here’s where things get real interesting. If you want to try and see if you can get your girl to gush — or if she’s asked you to try — there are some wet-n-wild techniques you can try. Not to mention, incorporating new movies into your sexual repertoire can be a sexy way to spice things up in your go-to bedroom routine with a hot goal in mind.

Relaxation is key. Before you get things started, relax — or rather, make sure she’s relaxed. When it comes to sex, it’s no secret that it can difficult for a a woman to fully let go and be in the moment. And if a woman doesn’t release the tension before her clothes come off, the chances of her ejaculating significantly decrease. So like we said: Relaxation is key.

Foreplay. Of course, foreplay also plays a big role in female ejaculation. "After she uses the restroom — so she's not worried about urinating when she's actually about to squ*rt — tell her to lay back, relax and enjoy the sensations she feels.This is where foreplay comes in," Dr. Melissa Fogel, psychologist and clinical sex expert, told AskMen.com. "Foreplay is important not only to ensure she is sufficiently relaxed, but in order to make a girl squ*irt her G-spot needs to be adequately simulated for a prolonged amount of time.”

Lube it up. While you might want your girl to be slippery down below out of pure pleasure, there’s no shame in asking for additional help. Yes, we’re talking about lube. According to Fogel, lube is essential in preparing her body for what’s about to come (ha). "Using enough lubrication is important to make her G-spot ready and to prevent any discomfort that may arise due to friction," she told AskMen.com. "A water-based lube works best. Make sure not only to apply it to the outside and inside of her vagina, but to your fingers and palm as well. Once everything is sufficiently wet, you can start working on her G-spot.”

Hone in. So the prep work is done and over with — now what? Here’s where things get a little tricky. As female ejaculation can only occur when you spend a long time focused solely on her G-spot (up to an hour, fellas), get ready for a lot of experimenting. Pro tip: Start things off with oral and finger play.

Nurture her. "Use oral sex to stimulate and arouse her clitoris. After doing this for a few minutes, insert your middle finger inside her; palm facing up. With your finger in about two inches deep, rub her front vaginal wall using a 'come hither' motion. After using this motion for several minutes you can add your middle finger and experiment with different amounts of pressure and movement," Fogel told AskMen.com. She notes that you’ll know if your movements are working when her G-spot becomes enlarged and feels sponge-like, as it’ll mean that the frontal wall of her vagina is swollen with liquid from the prostate.

Crossing the finish line. Now that she’s revved up, it’s time to switch things up. "Move your hand so that your palm is resting on her clitoris with your fingers inside her, as if you are cupping her clit," Fogel told AskMen.com. "Now, begin to move your entire hand up and down, which will hit her G-spot with your fingers at the same time you are stimulating her clitoris with your lubricated palm."

Follow her cues. Once you’ve reached this point, watch your girl’s reactions so you can maintain a steady rhythm, gradually applying more pressure to her G-spot. This is around the time when she should climax — fluid and all. "You may need to remind her to relax by telling her to 'let go,'" Fogel said. "As an added bonus to ensure she squ*rts, you can use your other hand to press on the area below her belly button, which will make her squ*rt more easily.” Voila.