Experts reveal the seven step guide to multiple orgasms – and why women in their forties are most likely to have them

MULTIPLE orgasms are the holy grail of sex and many women have never experienced them.

But how can many people do? And how can you make it happen?

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The experts have compiled seven step guide to multiple orgasmsCredit: Getty - Contributor

According to holistic sex and relationship expert Kim Anami, they are in reach for most of us.

She told Shape: “I had a client who would regularly have 30 to 40 orgasms in a session with her man. She may be the extreme, but having one to five is totally normal and doable for any woman.”

The big O is beneficial to both mental and physical health, helping with anxiety and depression and boosting the immune system.

And the more pleasure you feel, the better your body becomes at releasing the pleasure hormones – so practice makes perfect.

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Getting to the magic multiples may be within your graspCredit: Getty

Chris Rose, sex educator at PleasureMechanics.com said: “Many women don't allow themselves to get fully aroused, and arousal is what fuels multiple orgasms.”

The good news is that, as you get older, you’re more likely to experience more than one climax, because you know your body better.

Women in their forties have more multiple orgasms than those in their twenties.

Kim Amani and Chris Rose came with a seven step guide for Shape on reaching that elusive multiple climax.

Check Your Emotions

It’s all about the mindset, says Chris, so get your thoughts and emotions straight and focus on the moment. And relax.

“Deeper orgasms are all about a very intense state of release, so you have to be willing to dive into the unknown and let go,” adds Kim.

Slow Him Down

The average man takes bewteen three and seven minutes to climax, while the women tend to need between 10 and 20 minutes.

If you can get him to focus on you first when it comes to foreplay, that can help close the “arousal gap.”

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Let Him Lavish You

Most men will want you to have a good time so let him concentrate on you.

“Many women have a hard time receiving so much attention and letting the erotic focus be on their own pleasure,” says Chris.

So let yourself go and don’t worry about how long it takes.

Help Him Out

He may not always know what turns you on so show him exactly how you like to be touched.

Move his hands to where you want him to be and give him audible feedback on what is working for you.

Take a Breath

After your first climax, breathe.

“When people get sexually excited, they tend to hold the breath or breathe really shallow,” Kim said. “The more you can practice deep, steady breathing, you'll relax, stay in the present moment, and also increase the power and pleasure of your orgasm.”

Turn to Orgasmic Intercourse

Even after penetration, keep up the clitoral stimulation.

The majority of women don’t climax from penetrative sex alone according to a study in the journal Clinical Anatomy.

Keep the Connection

For a deeper, more satisfying climax, feeling like you’re on the same wavelength as your partner can help.

“Maintaining eye contact with him is intense, but this forces you to be more vulnerable and open, which is key to these deeper orgasmic experiences,” Kim explains.

If you make it to two orgasms, there’ll be no stopping you.