The 10 Sex Toys To Use If You Want INSANE Orgasms From Oral Sex

Make her feel pleasure like she never has before!

Every sexy lady loves the idea of being with an "experienced lover", someone who can show her the ropes and introduce her to new pleasures she's never felt before.

Of course, when you break it down to science, old Casanova (or even that creepy Peter North) can't really give you any pointers besides what we know from science and sexology. 

Here are five ways to female arousal that every male must know, so he can grow from a boy to a man, and give her the best orgasm of her life:

1. Mentally stimulate her

You must make sure a woman is properly aroused before heading too far down south. She has to be comfortable to get wet and she has to be wet before her vagina expands and the G-spot comes out of hiding.

So don't skimp on the foreplay. Ideally, you want to make love to her when she is at her sexual peak — as in the first time you make love, a romantic dinner, a role playing exercise, dirty talking, or an erotic fantasy. 

2. Stimulate her clitoris

The G-spot is actually believed to be a tail end of the clitoris, so don't ignore the clitoris thinking this is a "vaginal orgasm only" kind of night.

All these "wires" are connected in learning how to stimulate the G-spot. Stimulate the clitoris first, making her sufficiently wet and wild, and THEN plan for vaginal penetration. 

3. Focus on G-spot pressure

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Though you might want to try a sexual position later on, get her off first by direct manual stimulation using your fingers.

Insert two fingers into her vagina and curl them upwards, as if reaching up into her pubic hair area from the inside. The patch of skin that makes up the G-spot will be rougher in texture, about an inch in size. 

Don't simply stroke it or tickle it, but work your way up to fast and hard pressure, with your fingers or your entire arm. You'll know it's working when feel her vagina "arch" or tense up, making the wall more pronounced.

4. Tongue her for good measure

It only helps to stimulate her clitoris at the same time. You can use another free finger or a tongue. Try as much as possible to have both working at the same time, so that you can overwhelm her senses and bring out that powerful orgasm. 

5. Learn too love the vibrator

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A lot of guys are intimidated by vibrators, but rest assured they will never completely take the place of your Modern Major General down there.

Furthermore, it is highly recommended that women experiment with masturbation, so that they themselves will learn how to produce clitoral and G-spot stimulation, rather than just waiting for a man to magically make it happen.

It's all the more exciting if you explore your woman's body right along with her.

A few self-induced G-spot orgasms later, and she will find it easier to accommodate you and work along with your thrusting for maximum pleasure. 

Practice makes perfect in learning how to stimulate the G-Spot, so make time for experimentation and always keep your enthusiasm level up.

You'll be her sexual "Mister Miyagi" in no time!

If you're ready to be the best she's ever had, watch Nick Hardwicks Video The 67 Ways To Make Her Come. If You're a woman and want to make your man melt, watch Nick's BlowHisMind.com Video.

How To Use A Vibrator On Your Clitoris When Masturbating (For The Best Female Orgasm)

Are you having difficulty climaxing due to desensitization?

It can be a bummer when you can't orgasm because you've gotten used to the stimulation your vibrator is providing. In some cases, you can even get downright numb from them and this is common especially when you have used one for a while.

So, how does one avoid this or tackle this type of desensitization so you can achieve a clitoral orgasm?

There are 3 ways to use vibrators on your clitoris for the best results during masturbation.

1. Vary your stimulation

Take the vibrator off your clitoris and move it around the inner labia and then go back to the clitoris to keep from getting overstimulated or desensitized.

You can also use a vibrator that has different pattern settings that will cycle through pulsing and waves that will help keep you from becoming over-stimulated or desensitized as well.

2. Use an air pulse stimulator

Air Pulse Simulators are not vibrators but are designed to provide direct stimulation to the clitoris.

They typically do not cause the numbing that prolonged vibrator use can sometimes cause so you can use them instead of a vibrator or even after becoming desensitized by a vibrator to help reach climax.

3. Use lubricant

Using a vibrator without lubricant can cause too much friction so using a dab of lubricant can help keep the friction levels down that sometimes contribute to overstimulation or desensitization.Now that you know about these clever ways to maximize pleasure to the clitoris, you can enjoy and celebrate it! This is an amazing and beautiful gift of sexual pleasure for yourself and your partner!

Enjoy creative ideas using your vibrator.

You may have used a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris during female masturbation but you may be missing out on creative ways to use vibrators, as well as stumble into some common mistakes.

These days, with the vast amount of vibrators available, it can be difficult to know which type to choose, let alone know which sex toys are right for you and/or your lover.

Your sexual health is just as important as your physical, mental, and emotional health. So, the first and most important tip in choosing a sex toy such as a vibrator is making sure that it does not contain harmful toxins in them such as phthalates.

And once you've reviewed how to choose the right clitoral vibrator for you or your lover, you can turn your attention to learning how to use a vibrator and maximize your pleasure with one.

The most common types of clitoral stimulators these days are traditional vibrators, estim vibrators, and air pulse stimulators — you can get downright creative with how you use them, either solo or with a partner, and achieve a clitoral orgasm.

The most common female masturbation techniques are to use them directly on the clitoris or use a variety of techniques around the clitoris through manual patterns or patterns that are offered on a more advanced vibrator.

For increased stimulation, you can pull the hood of the clitoris back for direct stimulation and use it directly on top or to the side of the clitoris. You can also keep the clitoral hood in place and use the vibrator over it to decrease intensity. Most vibrators have multiple speeds so often the intensity levels will be adjustable.

When shopping for a vibrator, keep in mind that the vibrator power ratings often refer to the maximum level of power that vibrator can offer so even an adjustable speed vibrator is going to have a maximum power level that it can reach.

That means if you do not want a lot of power but the vibrator has adjustable speeds you can simply use a lower speed but if a vibrator has a maximum rating on power that is not that strong you are not going to get more than that level of power.

Thus, if you like power or even if you do not choose a vibrator that has a strong power setting that is adjustable as it will meet your needs regardless of your preferences.

Another way to stimulate using a clitoral vibrator is by using it on other erogenous zones of the body before or in between stimulating the clitoris such as the nipples and outer and inner labia (lips).

While using a clitoral vibe, you can either pleasure the clitoris with constant stimulation or you can also move it back and forth over the inner labia, vaginal opening and back to the clitoris. This can intensify an orgasm as well as keeping one from getting overstimulated or desensitized.

But, if you do not have a clitoral vibrator but you have a G-spot vibrator, vibrating rings, and/or dual vibrators, you can hold those over the clitoris and use them to stimulate, as well.

Don't be shy about using various types of vibrators on the clitoris.

Additionally, you can use dual motor vibrators that are able to stimulate both the clitoris and G-spot at the same time and even find triple stimulating vibrators that stimulate the clitoris, G-spot, and anus all at the same time.

There are also vibrators that can be worn during sex or used remotely with customization features via Bluetooth so the options are quite vast.

Joyousness of butoh

It is most unusual for a choreographer to shout "Stop dancing!" to the African dancers he is working with.

To confuse matters further, Boaz Barkan claims: "Butoh isn't a dance. You have to live it. We are trying to show a certain existence".

Fair enough. Anyone who has been exposed to this Japanese form will know there is a lot of introspection involved.

That is also true of Down Flesh Road, which this accomplished Israeli-born contemporary dancer and Butoh artist has been creating, with his wife Anika, at Benoni's Sibikwa Arts Centre. For the last three weeks this couple, based in Denmark, have spent their return visit consolidating what they taught last year. The fascinating In the Wake of the Body, which was the culmination of their 2007 residency, is now succeeded by Down Flesh Road.

The Barkans are demanding "complete hyper-engagement" in a quest for authentic expression. The eight Sibikwa graduates (four of whom participated In the Wake of the Body) have been put through a strenuous physical and emotional creation process. One of their exercises has been "really feeling a chicken".

"We create complexities and we have to do five or six things at the same time," is the explanation. Some of the images, which deal with death and destruction, can be horrific. "Butoh can also be joyous," adds Barkan. "It doesn't always have to be grotesque. Joyfulness, like an orgasm, isn't always pretty."

He is relishing being reunited with the SA performers. One of his major discoveries is that "there is an absolutely dramatic difference in the understanding of the words transformation, transcendence, through movement. And the physicality is different. This time I have made it quite explicit. We are working with raw, basic, Butoh imagery."

The contrasts between the preparation for African traditional and Western dance, aside from Butoh, have enthralled him. He is equally delighted by the South Africans' communal township background and rich creativity.

Barkan's own artistic background speaks volumes. His dance training, when he was 17 and a soldier in the Israeli army, initially comprised ballet classes in Tel Aviv with Bat-Dor (directed by South African Jeannette Ordman). When his parents moved to Los Angeles he followed them and enrolled at California Institute of the Arts. The training was a disappointment. That all changed when he was 22 and met Oguri, who was leading Min Tanaka's Body Weather Workshop in LA.

"I became his shadow. I was drawn to Butoh, because it was sophisticated, complex, independent, thorough and human". What also appealed to the young rebel was: "Butoh's sense of community and that it wasn't based on an aesthetic. The sense of creating it together in trying to break boundaries. In Zulu traditional dance they push each other. Butoh is a subtle way of reaching out. You have to lose the body. As Oguri says: 'then the whole of existence follows'."

Barkan dropped out before graduating after his body started changing, because of the Butoh, and he had performed a life-threatening piece in which he was connected to electrical current.

After moving to New York and working with Body Weather there and in Japan, he met Anika Kristensen - another Min Tanaka disciple. Apart from their teaching at Denmark's circus school, Barkan works in New York and, for the past decade, has been part of post-modern pioneer Anna Halprin's famous dance collective.

He is currently touring Europe with a handpicked cast in … & alters parades & changes, replays a reconstruction of parades & changes created in 1965.

Down Flesh Road will be performed to a soundscape sung by 10 singer-musicians under the musical direction of Neo Leleka, who has scored traditional African instruments and percussion.

This particular adventure began when Barkan, who is distantly related to Sibikwa co-director Phyllis Klotz, first met Sibikwa actors in LA. That first impression stayed with him and 12 years later he realised it was time to reconnect with those singular energies.

What makes this exchange even more incredible is that the project hasn't received any formal funding. "We keep trying … There are ways," he mused enigmatically. So Butoh-esque.

See Down Flesh Road at the Dance Factory on Saturday at 3pm. Tickets cost R40 at the door. Contact Sibikwa on 011-422-4359.

Age catches up with Brad Pitt

It's 18 years since Brad Pitt burst on to our screens in his scene-stealing cameo in Thelma & Louise. As the hustler with the blond locks and tanned six-pack who gave Geena Davis her first orgasm, he was the perfect Hollywood specimen. His crowning as People magazine's Sexiest Man Alive in 1995 and again five years later, seemed a mere formality.

Yet as he enters the hotel suite near to where he's filming Quentin Tarantino's Inglourious Basterds, he appears a world away from his humble "himbo" beginnings.

Now 45, Pitt has aged remarkably well. He's been filming the role of Lieutenant Aldo Raine, the leader of a group of Jewish-American soldiers called The Basterds. His hair, swept to one side and shaved with military precision, is a dirtier blond than it once was. His face is angular, while his physique is slight, nowhere near the muscle-bound bulk he put on when he played Achilles in Troy.

Maybe it's that Pitt is now so frequently photographed with partner Angelina Jolie, he seems incomplete without her.

Ageing is the topic as Pitt is promoting The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. The film casts him as a man who is born old and ages in reverse, growing younger every day.

With Benjamin narrating his own "unusual circumstances", as he puts it, from his birth at the end of World War 1, Pitt has the difficult task of playing a man who's an observer in his own life. It's a far cry from, say, his suave Rusty Ryan in Ocean's Eleven and its sequels.

Fincher calls it "the stillest performance" in the actor's career. Pitt nods at the thought of this.

"Some parts are more gregarious, some are about internalising the moments. The process is more about watching the other actors and responding to what they give across the page."

His previous nod at the Oscars was in the supporting category for his asylum patient in Terry Gilliam's Twelve Monkeys (1995).

"The biggest battle is making a film you're proud of. That's the win for me. Awards are really nice. It's a fickle business. If your number comes up, it's fantastic, if not, we still walk away with a great film and really I think that's the healthiest way to play it."

While the film is primarily a romance between Benjamin and Daisy (Cate Blanchett), the ballerina he meets in his early years who grows up as he gets younger, it could just as easily be seen as a love-letter to Pitt himself.

Fincher toys with his movie-star iconography, notably in a scene when Pitt plays the middle-aged Benjamin without make-up. Riding a bike, looking like Steve McQueen in a leather jacket and shades, it's as if we're meant to acknowledge his place in Hollywood history.

"There's a real benefit to having somebody you can't walk 50m in the civilised world and not see a photograph of. People are so familiar with his face, you can work with that," smiles Fincher.

With the film a meditation on life, death, ageing and beauty, Pitt admits it was playing the wizened Benjamin that held his fascination.

"I've done the younger version, so it wasn't as interesting as what the future might hold. I can't say time will be as kind as I was to myself," says Pitt, who "got a little bit of say" in what his character looked like with wrinkles.

After Thelma & Louise put him on the map it didn't take long before he moved from bit-part player to leading man in films such as Legends of the Fall and Interview with the Vampire. By 1995, when he began dating Se7en co-star Gwyneth Paltrow, he was a tabloid favourite.

He'd been in relationships with Juliette Lewis, his co-star of 1993's Kalifornia. But in many ways a dry run for the Brangelina hysteria, Pitt and Paltrow, in the words of one critic, "were the only true heart-throbs of the mid-1990's".

The same, perhaps, wasn't true of his five-year marriage to Friends star Jennifer Aniston, which ended in 2005, just after Pitt had met Jolie on the set of Mr and Mrs Smith (2005). Aniston branded what her rival did as "very uncool" - though it's not difficult to see that Pitt has a problem with commitment.

More than once he has left projects at the 11th hour. In 2002, he bailed on Darren Aronofsky's The Fountain, despite having grown a ZZ Top-like beard for his role. His reason? To spend more time with Aniston. He also pulled out of State of Play.

But it shows how cautiously he is approaching his career. Though careful enough to satisfy the studio bean-counters with sporadic blockbusters, he has mixed them up more esoteric projects.

Furthermore, as he steers away from trading on his looks he's emerging as a far more multi-faceted actor than old-school A-list stars such as Tom Cruise and Bruce Willis.

Indeed, between child-minding and charity projects with Jolie, it seems Pitt's main objective is to collaborate with cinematic legends.

He worked with the Terrence Malick on The Tree of Life. "I appreciate an auteur. It's a director's medium. They are the storytellers, guys obsessed with their craft."

Yet it's his role for Tarantino that will cause the most consternation. "The character is... absolutely outrageous!" Now that's tantalising. - The Independent

Seven tips to boost sexual confidence in the bedroom

One of the most common reasons why people are shy in the bedroom is lack of sexual experience. Picture: Pixnio

Sex is natural, joyous, and occasionally even worth skipping a Grey's Anatomy marathon for. But it can also be stressful, and especially for shy guys and gals who feel like fumbling amateurs among professional woo-masters.

Here are seven tips for shedding those insecurities and leaving them in a heap at the bedroom door:

Practice makes perfect

One of the most common reasons why people are shy in the bedroom is lack of sexual experience. And the best way to gain more boom-boom experience and therefore confidence is - wait for it - to have more sex. 

Know what you like

Insecurity may also come from a lack of understanding about what feels good to you. Spend a little quality time with yourselves. That may include self-touching.

Connect to what you feel is sensual or sexual. Carve out some quality fantasizing time, or take a hot bath and revel in the relaxation. Heck, do them both at the same time!

Forget what that jerk said back in college. 

If you’ve had sex, you’ve probably had an embarrassing sexual experience. Don’t let a ghost from your sexual past haunt the present. Hanging on to the past, to resentments and anger, sadness and upset. That’s like drinking poison and thinking it’ll kill your enemy. Stay in the present moment.

Don’t fake orgasms - fake confidence!

“Fake it till you make it” applies as well to sexual matters as it does to careers and personal success. Confidence is your most important accessory, even if it’s fake.

Save your body image issues for bikini season

Not liking your boobs, your bum, your thighs, your face, your hair? It’s common, but forget it. Sex is about sensation, not six-pack abs, so get in touch with the sensations in your body rather than thinking about whether or not your breasts look saggy.

Do your homework

To learn about your partner’s body and become more attuned to the moment, perform a sensation exercise. Here’s an easy one: get into your birthday suit and lie down with your similarly attired partner. 

Light some candles, or whatever sets the mood. Tell your partner to close their eyes as you explore their body gently (it doesn’t have to be genital-focused). “The point isn’t to bring your partner to orgasm but to explore sensations. 

Touch them from head to toe with varying speed, pressure, direction, for about 15 minutes. Then switch. At the end of 30 minutes,  talk about it... what you experienced, liked, preferred, or didn’t like, etc, sensation-wise.

Take baby steps

Take a baby-steps approach to engaging more deeply with your sexuality and your partner. It can be as simple as creating a cute code word for when you’re in the mood (“Cheetos?”) or establishing a signal (i.e., the old sock on the door knob).

Ho! Ho! Ho! 8 naughty gift ideas for Christmas

We see a lot of candles at Christmas, but none will heat up your holiday like the Shunga Erotic Massage Candle. Picture: Pixabay

With Black Friday just around the corner, everyone is already gearing up for Christmas! If you have been particularly naughty this year and want to keep the tempo up, take a look at this naughty list of presents...

For yourself - Greedy Girl

The holiday season is the perfect time to treat yourself, so make sure that you get what you really want this Christmas! The Fifty Shades Of Grey Greedy Girl is rechargeable and is the perfect give for the most discerning pleasure seeker on your list.

For her – Womanizer W500 Pro

What can I say about the Womanizer that hasn’t already been (enthusiastically) said in rave reviews? It is uniquely able to bring you to orgasm using sonic pulses rather than traditional vibrations – meaning it resonates deep within the internal structure of the clitoris for a wholly overwhelming experience.

For both of you – We Vibe Sync

Enjoy the Christmas buzzz - both inside and out… that’s what the holidays are really supposed to be about, right? Well, Bella Rouge has just the thing. The We Vibe Sync is guaranteed to get you both buzzing! After you've each had your 5 orgasms, time to relax with a cup of mulled wine. It’s the gift that keeps on giving to both you and your partner, whether you need to de-stress, or just for fun.

For your female friends – Gigi 2

The Lelo Gigi 2 is a classic, and with good reason. It has garnered some of the best reviews for G-spot stimulators, and with all this buzz, why wouldn’t you want to share it with your nearest and dearest? Go from ‘best friend’ to ‘best friend ever’ this Christmas!

For sexy stocking stuffers – StudiO

These little gifts pack a big punch, and are perfect stocking stuffers. Choose between a vibrating lipstick, mascara, make-up brush, compact vibe or lip balm. They are discreet and are a wonderful choice for the friend that travels a lot.

For setting the scene – Erotic Massage Candle

We see a lot of candles at Christmas, but none will heat up your holiday like the Shunga Erotic Massage Candle. With all-natural ingredients, this candle melts into a luxurious massage oil. It comes in 2 delicious scents, and with a 40 hour burn-time, it will take you well into your sexier new year.

Can’t pick just one?

Are your holidays stressful enough without trying to pick just one sex toy to wow someone with? Why not give them a gift set instead...

The intent gift set

Let your partner enjoy some serious me-time with The Intent gift set, a beautifully packaged and presented collection of some of LELO’s all-time favourite pleasure objects.