15 Reasons Why Married Sex Is Hot

Marriage may not exactly sound sexy — but it can be.  The popular belief is that when couples get married, their sex life only gets staler and staler, when in actuality it gets better and better.  Keep reading to discover 15 reasons why married sex is hot.Are you married and still have a great sex life?  Let us know in the comments!

There's never a reason to be shy. This is the person you agreed to spend the rest of your life with. Shyness went out the window right after you both said, "I do." So if you have something new you want to bring into the bedroom, there isn't anything to feel nervous about.

Wherever, whenever. You've both exchanged vows to each other stating that you'll always be there for each other. You always basically said, without actually saying anything, that you'll both always be DTF. Basically, you both just won at life.

Attraction is guaranteed. Before you were married, admit it, you hooked up with men or women who weren't exactly your type. But you did it to have some fun. Now that you're married, you're guaranteed to be attracted to them. How convenient.

You can be goofy. Sex doesn't always have to be text book sexy. Sometimes sex is even more enjoyable when the two of you are behaving sort of goofily. When you're married, this is absolutely OK.

You know all about each other's kinks. Though you'll always be exploring new territories in sex, once you're married, you've likely opened up almost completely to each other. This is a major benefit because it means you don't have worry about whether or not they won't be down.

You don't have to pretend to be something you're not. You're married. You're having sex. You can just be yourself. All the stresses of bending over backwards to impress someone are gone. Now you're just bending over backwards because that's what you both are into.

The faking days are behind you. Don't worry about faking it if you're just not feeling it. This is your husband/wife. Just be honest with them. What's better than that?

You each know about each other's quirks. People can weird, especially in the bedroom. Luckily for you, you're both down with each other's weirdness. In fact, it actually turns you both on. Like, a lot. You weirdos.

You can be completely open with other. If you want to try something new. If you need him or her to slow down. They're all ears for whatever it is you want or need. When you're married, sex is great, but mostly, sex is safe.

STIs are a thing of the past. Unless the two of you are of the swinging persuasion, you'll never have to worry about surprise STIs ever again. Whatever the both of you have or don't are common knowledge between the two of you, so you're both good to go!

Morning sex forever. If you both wanted to have morning sex for the rest of your lives — you can. You can now wake up to the wonderful delights of being inside each other. What more could a married couple hope for?

You can explore your home. Whether you live in a tiny apartment or a giant mansion, when you're married, you can have sex everywhere. Bought a dining room table? Have sex on it. Installed a new kitchen island? Have sex on it. Bought a new bed? Have- well, you know what to do.

Don't bother getting dolled up all the time. Sure, you want to look good for each other. Don't fall apart just because you got married. But gone are the days of having to perfect every little detail for a date or a one night fling. You both love each other just the way you are.

It's genuinely romantic. You're both in love — nothing about this is fake (and if it was, you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place). When you're making love, it's all legit. Sex has become something more than just getting naked and humping each other.

You get to always fall asleep to each other. There's nothing quite like having sex with the person you love and then cuddling up and falling asleep together. It's one of the simple pleasures in life. When you're married, sex is all about comfort.

7 Absolutely Necessary Talks for A Good Sex Life

When you're dating someone that you really like, doesn't it seem like you have almost an endless stream of topics to discuss? The conversations can just last forever. And there are certainly taboo things that maybe shouldn't be discussed. It was Hall and Oates who sang, "Some things are better left unsaid." These particular topics, however, do not qualify. Here are 7 absolutely necessary talks for a good sex life.What's something you feel is necessary to discuss with your significant other? Let us know in the comments.

The Test History Conversation. Sexual history, though difficult to talk about, is a very important thing to discuss. Don’t save yourself from having an uncomfortable conversation at the expense of contracting an STD. Laura Berman, Ph.D., suggests leading by example.

Me, then you. Berman suggest saying something like, “I’ve been tested since I slept with someone last — what about you?” This approach will keep the conversation light and airy. Men’s Fitness writes that you don’t need to disclose the number of people you’ve slept with, just share your clean bill of health.

The Turn-Ons (And Turn-Offs) Conversation. You would actually be stunned to find out how many people don’t discuss these things with their partner. It’s one of the most important keys to a healthy sex life. Again, this is another conversation that might be difficult, but the alternative is much worse.

Timing. When you’re having conversations about what you don’t like in the bedroom, try to avoid having them in the moment. Berman says that having those conversations in the moment creates a vulnerable environment, and that leading with the positive is a good play. Author of "Cheat On Your Husband (With Your Husband)," Andrea Syrtash suggests offering an alternative because it allows you to share something that turns you on, while at the same time, giving voice to something that doesn’t.

The Frequency Conversation. Or “How much do you want it?” It’s important to be aware of how much your partner wants to have sex, and how that meshes (or doesn’t) with how much you want to have sex. “If you want it every day,” Berman says, “and she wants it once a month, that’s going to be a problem.”

Sex schedule. The best way to maintain a healthy sex life is to make sure you have time to share together. Berman says that while it seems mechanical and unsexy, sharing a sex schedule can help to assure you share an intimate sexual experience at least twice a week, which she recommends.

The Fantasy Conversation. A judgement free zone is conducive to exploration, obviously. You should listen, regardless of whether what you hear is your fantasy or not. Allowing there to be a space where you and your partner can give voice to these fantasies is necessary.

Creative compromise. Men’s Fitness suggests a solution to the problem of one partner loving something that the other isn’t crazy about, “Identify where the desire comes from and brainstorm a creative compromise… For example, if she wants to have sex in public—and you don’t—suggest laying down a blanket on the back porch where there’’s a slight chance of your neighbors sneaking a peek.”

The Cheating Conversation. Everyone has a different definition of cheating. Some people believe flirting is cheating. Some people believe kissing is cheating. And some don’t think you’re cheating until you have sex. But there are also different kinds of cheating. So how do you decide what counts…

TALK ABOUT IT! That’s the theme for today: Talk about it! Men’s Fitness suggests making a list of acts that you would both consider cheating. Decide where to draw the line. You may disagree, but you will be able to find out your partner’s boundaries and it will make life easier.

The Love Language Conversation. If you subscribe to Gary Chapman’s theory of love languages, then you’d know that (theoretically) people give, and receive, love in certain ways — gifts, quality time, words of affirmation or compliments, acts of service, and physical touch.

Finding what works. If your partner’s love language is very heavily tethered to touch, and yours is definitely not, you might have a problem here if you don’t discuss. Dr. Berman suggests, again despite the clinical nature, making a list, and exchanging. Start with the prompt “I feel love when…” then insert what makes you feel loved.

The Check-In Conversation. People are constantly changing as the world around us changes. So more than likely the things that turn you on today may not turn you on in 20 years. In the same vein, things that previously seemed so repulsive to you sexually may seem a little more interesting in time.

Make time. Checking in is another key. Men’s Fitness says that the longer two people are together, the less likely they are to be able to accurately predict their partner’s preferences. And you know what they say about people who assume… Don’t assume, just ask. And tell.

Tech! Here’s one last conversation, this one you can keep for free. Technology can be a huge relationship killer. There’s nothing less sexy then seeing your girlfriend eyeing your phone all the time, and it can kill your sex life if you think your partner may be doing something they aren’t supposed to be. Set clear boundaries. Will you have each other’s passwords for social media? Will you be friends with your exes on Facebook or Snapchat?

Sex Toys: How To Add Them To Partner Sex

Looking to spice things up in the bedroom? It might be time you and your partner invest in a sex toy (or two). Indeed, using a vibrator, massager, or beyond between the sheets can be a sexy and fun way to gives things a boost in the boudoir. Still, bringing up the subject to your partner can be particularly tricky, especially when you don’t know how they’ll react. Will they be into the idea, or totally offended by it? Not to mention, what do you do if you actually get the OK? What then?!  — down below, we break down how to introduce sex toys to your relationship.

It’s all about timing. Don’t introduce the idea of incorporating sex toys into the bedroom on the first date, obviously. Rather, bring up the idea once you’ve had a few steamy sessions together and have built a solid level of not only communication, but also trust — both inside and outside the bedroom.

Speed up the process... Care to learn how? If you want to jump front point A to point Z, you can help speed things up by offering your partner lots of praise when they hit those hot zones. This way, they’ll be super confident that they’re satisfying you between the sheets, increasing the odds that your sex toy suggestion will be well-received.

Ease into it. To start the conversation with your partner, talk openly about your interests and desires between the sheets— but gently ease into the discussion of sex toys. Pro tip: Find an article on the matter and try introducing it to them by saying, “I found this interesting piece on how fun sex toys can be. What are your thoughts on them?”

Give a reassuring nudge. It’s essential that you explain why you want to bring some sex toys into the mix — and that you be positive. Offer lots of reassurance and appreciation for your already amazing sex life, so that your interest in toys isn’t perceived as a complaint or grievance.

Look things up. In other words, do your research. Having a good level of knowledge and understanding of the variety of sex toys out there will help put their mind at ease if they have any doubts/fears of the unknown (as well as yours!). Not to mention, this will also help in narrowing down specifically which sex toy(s) you’re both willing to try.

Shop together. After you broach the topic with them and they agree to try it out, shop together! Whether it’s done online or in person, browsing products together can actually make for a great date while simultanoeusly serving as a form of foreplay. Win-win.

Connection 101. So you’ve got your toys — now what? Simply put, connect them to something your other half is already doing. For instance, as they already knows where to touch you to get your juices flowing, build on these skills. Say something like, “It feels so good when you touch me there. I’d love to try it with some vibrations.”

Give them the control. A good way to avoid having your partner view the new addition as competition? Let them control your pleasure. Having them administer — or take away — the powerful sensations is highly erotic, especially if you’re into being submissive (and, like, who isn’t?). The trick is to leave all of you inhibitions behind and really surrender yourself to them.

Don’t forget about them! A common problem some folks have — namely, men — with sex toys is they’re afraid of being “left out." So as a means to ensure your partner is not left out of the fun, opt for a toy that has the ability to pleasure the both of you.

Don’t forget about them! Assuming your partner is a man, rings for the wang or wearable toys can offer a slew of enticing possibilities for not only you, but him as well. This way, you’re both in on the fun (and pleasure).

Speaking off.. Rings for the wang? What’s that? If you’re unfamiliar with c**k rings, well, they’re sort of the best. The Frisky explains, "Designed just for couple sex, this small, wearable toy does double duty. Worn around the penis and/or the balls, this typically flexible ring is meant to prolong a man’s erection, and delay his orgasm, thereby intensifying his pleasure. At the same time, the vibrations work to stimulate your clitoris during penetration.” Yes, please.

Slather on the lube. Trust us, it can make so many parts — if not every part — of sex better. In fact, one study found that lubricant use was associated with more pleasurable masturbation and sex with a partner. Keep in mind that how much lube you should use depends on the size of the toy, of course.

New Study: Has Your Guy Paid For Sex Before?

You may not be able to spot a John as easily as you might think. All kinds of men seek out sex workers for various reasons. This new survey revealed that paying for sex is more common than you you realize. How can you tell if your boyfriend is seeing a prostitute on the side? This new study can find out if your guy has paid for sex before. What do you think of the proliferation of sex work? Are you disturbed by this survey? Tell us about it in the comments.

The oldest profession. Prostitution has been around since Ancient times. Paying for sex is nothing new.

Who pays for sex? The Mirror reports that a new study published in the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections reveals the percentage of men who pay for sex. According to the study, ten percent of British men have paid for sex. But even more men see sex workers in other countries.

England. Of the 6,000 men surveyed in England, 3.6% admitted to seeing a sex worker in the last five years. And the Johns aren’t what you’d think they’d be. According to Mirror, the survey found that “Single men aged 25 to 34, in managerial or professional occupations and those with high numbers of sexual partners were the most likely to say that they had paid for sex.”

England. Scientist Dr Cath Mercer, from University College London, told Mirror, "The picture that emerges does not necessarily fit the stereotype of the lonely older man….In fact, men who pay for sex are more likely to be young professionals with many unpaid sexual partners. Many report other hedonistic and risky behaviours including heavy drinking and drug taking."

STIs. The report also found men who saw prostitutes were twice as likely to get diagnosed with a sexually transmitted infection. According to the Mirror, men who saw prostitutes had twice the sexual partners of the national average. And they made up 15.6% of all diagnosed STIs in the UK.

But not from sex workers… Dr. Mercer added that those STIs weren’t necessarily transmitted from prostitutes. She told Mirror, "Men who pay for sex are evidently at high risk of infection, but this does not necessarily mean that the STIs are spread through their paid sex. Instead, we found that these men report engaging in other risky sexual behaviors, such as having concurrent - or overlapping - partners, and so should be considered a core-group for sexual health interventions and services."

Cambodia. Cambodia and Thailand had the highest percentages of men going to brothels. According to Procon.org, 59-80 percent of Cambodian men have paid for sex. 75% of Thai men have as well.

First time? In some cultural circles, it is common for a young man to lose his virginity to a sex worker. In Italy, experts estimate 16.7-45 percent of men have paid for sex. Writes Bruno Wanrooji, PhD., “Until 1960, about a quarter of Italian young men had their first complete heterosexual experience with prostitutes. Visits to brothels were considered part of the process of coming of age for young, unmarried men, even though in reality middle-aged married men made up a large part of the clientele.”

Business expense? In some corporate circles, visiting a brothel during your lunch break is a form of entertainment. According to Procon.org, 37% of men in Japan have seen prostitutes. Robert T. Francoeur, PhD writes, “It is still quietly accepted and understood that a Japanese husband may join business associates or friends for a visit to a 'Soapland' red-light district...The old-style, leisurely coital sex play with geishas and Soap Ladies, however, is declining in favor of quick, cheaper (and hence, more frequently affordable) masturbation, oral sex, and voyeurism.”

What about America? American men are high on the list for seeing sex workers. Procon.org estimates 15 to 20 percent of men in America have paid for sex at some point in their lives, which is a lot less than earlier surveys. Kinsey reports in 1948 estimated 69% of men paid for sex, and Benjamin and Masters found 80% did in 1964.

Norway. The 12.9 percent of men in Norway who pay for sex do not fit the mold of the typical John. According to Procon.org, seeing a sex worker in Norway is associated with being single, on disability, and having multiple partners. But these men were more likely to have sexually transmitted infections.

France. Brothels are becoming increasingly trendy in France. According to Procon.org, 16% of French men have seen an escort at some point in time. Street prostitution is becoming less popular, as middle-class men are shifting toward more discreet forms of sex purchase.

What about America? American men are high on the list for seeing sex workers. Procon.org estimates 15 to 20 percent of men in America have paid for sex at some point in their lives, which is a lot less than earlier surveys. Kinsey reports in 1948 estimated 69% of men paid for sex, and Benjamin and Masters found 80% did in 1964.

Norway. The 12.9 percent of men in Norway who pay for sex do not fit the mold of the typical John. According to Procon.org, seeing a sex worker in Norway is associated with being single, on disability, and having multiple partners. But these men were more likely to have sexually transmitted infections.

France. Brothels are becoming increasingly trendy in France. According to Procon.org, 16% of French men have seen an escort at some point in time. Street prostitution is becoming less popular, as middle-class men are shifting toward more discreet forms of sex purchase.