5 Best Sex Positions to Achieve Orgasm

Don't you just hate it when you watch ‘screen sex scenes' and you witness an actress have a mind-blowing orgasm in a matter of minutes? Every woman knows that big O's don't work like that, and what's worse, there are delusional men all over the world getting it wrong because they don't know any better.

It's time to take matters into your own hands and initiate the sex positions that are going to work for you all the way to climax.

#1 You On Top

I'm not going to sugar coat it ladies – you are all responsible for your own orgasms from now on! If you don't know how your own body works, then how on earth do you expect your man to know? If you want to have great sex then you need to make sure you are participating, and this doesn't mean lying on your back and waiting for the earth to move as he puffs and pants above you.

Woman on top is the easiest way for most women to achieve climax during sex because of the freedom and control the position allows. You can use this freedom to control the depth, pace and angle of penetration to suit your pleasure.

Being on top isn't all about the bounce though, you really have to know how to ride a guy. If you want to achieve orgasm in this position it has to be all about your pleasure, so focus on tensing all the right muscles in your legs and vagina as you thrust him in and out of you. Or rotate your pelvis in a circular motion for a completely different sensation.

TIPS: Try to let the power of this position turn you on mentally, and encourage your partner to enhance your pleasure by manually stimulating your erogenous zones. Your body will be one hundred per cent open for play, so there's no excuse for him not to be tweaking those nipples and rubbing that clit!

Also, if you turn around so that you are facing away from him the angle of your vagina will allow his penis to hit your G spot. Use constant firm strokes to stimulate it! And don't be adverse to a bit of anal stimulation if he's up for it…

#2 Him On Top

The popular opinion is that the missionary position is dull and predictable, but I beg to differ ladies. Just because it is the most obvious, it doesn't mean you should knock it. The missionary is the most natural sex position for a reason you know?

The intimacy of the Missionary position can be a big turn on, especially if you allow your mind to absorb all the wonderful feelings of his body brushing up against your nipples, his nose nuzzling into your neck, his thighs pushing up against your bum… often it is easy to just focus on the pleasure going on between your legs, but if you expand your focus to all the other little pleasures that are happening at the same time, you will undoubtedly work yourself up into an orgasmic frenzy of desire!

TIPS: A pillow underneath your hips will make a significant difference. It will raising your knees, and allow him to penetrate more deeply. Alternatively you can lay your legs flat and closed on the bed with him inside of you, and tense your vaginal PC muscles every time he thrusts, to help elevate you towards your climax, and give him the pleasure of a much tighter fit and the pleasant sensation of being ‘sucked in'.

#3 Do It Doggy

There's something incredibly ‘animal' about this position. Personally I love being taken from behind. I have no idea why it feels so raw and ravishing!

Many women don't like the idea of being on all fours with a man pounding away behind them because it feels kind of impersonal, not to mention a tad pornographic, which makes some of us feel uncomfortable. I know exactly what you mean! That's why I prefer it if I am leaning up against the back of a sofa or on the floor leaning up against the side of the bed when he's coming in from behind, because it's easier for him to get close up to my body and hold me. It's also slightly more dignified and flattering than bent over with your ass sticking up in the air!

This is also the perfect position for G Spot stimulation girls, so give it a go if you want to try for a deep reverberating orgasm… Try different angles until it starts to feel like it's going somewhere…

TIP: If he reaches his hands around to play with your clitoris and nipples in this position then your chances of climax are going to shoot right up!

#4 The Rocking Horse

Essentially this is a sitting position, where he sits in a lotus pose with his legs crossed, and you sit kneeling on top of him. It works best when he leans backwards using his hands for support and you thrust your body towards him so that your torsos are aligned, and he rocks gently with every thrust.

Why does it feel so good?

Well, aside from the angle of penetration allowing his penis to rub against your front vaginal wall, you also get delicious friction on the outside for your clitoris, and you can even get stimulation for your nipples when you rub your body against his chest.

TIP: By tensing the muscles in your thighs and vagina as your thrust you will increase your chances of orgasm.

#5 Spooning

The best morning sex position in my opinion! Why? Well for starters you don't have to breathe all over each over if you're not one for morning breath, which can be distracting to say the least. It's also a comfortable and relaxed position, with him embracing and entering you from behind as you lie in bed side by side.

He can lean away from you to give a deeper and more sensual kind of penetration, or cuddle you and play with your erogenous zones for closer, more intimate feel.

TIP: To spice it up and make spooning a bit edgy get him to rough up and perhaps pull you towards him with your hair, or hold your face firmly with his hands as he bites into your neck. The rough approach will excite you and send all the right pleasure signals to your erogenous zones, increasing your chances of reaching that much needed climax.

10 Steps to Spice Up Your Missionary Sex Position

I understand you; I’m a missionary lover myself. There’s nothing better than the feel of your lover on top of you, looking into your eyes, kissing your lips, your neck, while his body heat warms and covers you during your lovemaking session. Missionary style is the best sex position ever!

It’s also the most underrated sex position.

Missionary sex position gets a bad reputation and it’s underestimated far too often. People assume it’s boring or it’s too safe.

Let me be the first to tell you that this fantastic position doesn’t have to be safe or boring! In fact, missionary is one of the most versatile of all sexual positions.

You don’t have to pull a muscle trying some contortionist sex trick, you won’t end up in the emergency room for some sex related injury…but you can, and you will, have some of the best orgasms you’ve ever experienced along with the romance and intensity of looking directly into your lover’s eyes while you’re in bed together. Here’s how to make the most of missionary.

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1. Throw one leg over his shoulder

Some of us prefer missionary style because we’re too out of shape to really do much else. Honestly, I find it exhausting trying to be on top for too long. If you’re like me, some positions are just too painful to be in because of the way your uterus curves or because, perhaps, he’s a bit too big for you.

One way to spice up your missionary style is to throw one of your legs over his shoulder. He will love the feel of your smooth calf against his cheek, it gives him easier access to grab your ass, and it adds a little depth when he’s inside you. It’s also one of the easiest missionary spice styles.

2. Throw both legs over his shoulder

If you want him to feel deeper inside you, then put both of your legs over his shoulders and let him use his hands to grab your ass and lift your pelvis up to meet his.

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3. Lie on your side

Add a little “twist” to your missionary position by rolling onto your side instead of lying on your back. Let him enter you from the side. If feels entirely different for both of you, and yet it has the same intimacy as when you’re “spooning” each other when you sleep. Believe it or not, this position is much more intimate than feisty and you’ll be amazed at how great it feels.

4. Put a pillow under your bottom

If you really want to add some spice, put a pillow under your ass or your lower back so that your pelvis is raised for him. This lets you do less work, him get deeper inside you, and helps your love making session last longer.

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5. Use a little light bondage

Just because it’s missionary style, doesn’t mean you can’t get a little kinky with it! Missionary position is perfect for light bondage play. Let him blindfold you or handcuff you to the bedpost and explore a little bit of “master” and “servant” play. Being tied up and unable to look at your lover is much hotter than it sounds on paper, you’ll both enjoy this tip, believe me!

6. Keep your knees bent and your hips raised, thrust!

Your legs don’t have to be flat when you’re in missionary position, you just have to be on bottom facing him. One of the most satisfying (and the easiest) spicy tips for this position is to just bend your knees (like you’re about to do a sit-up) and lift your pelvis to match his thrusts. It helps you both stay in the same rhythm and it encourages him to actually meet your speed instead of making his own.

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7. Grab his behind

Many people think missionary has to be boring, or that the woman doesn’t have a lot of options in the position, but that just isn’t true. This position allows you to play with HIS ass for once! Don’t you just love a man with a great behind?!

Okay, stop being boring in bed, grab his gorgeous buttocks and pull him into you, or, if you’re feeling particularly spicy, let him know how much he pleases you by clawing his back while he’s inside you and you’re having an orgasm. Don’t be boring, touch him, caress him, claw him, do whatever you need to do to add sensuality into your sex session.

8. Wrap your legs around his waist and push his ass with your feet

Pushing doesn’t have to be done with your hands (which can be particularly difficult if you and your guy are pretty different height wise). Try wrapping your legs around his waist and pushing your heels against his ass.

When he’s moving inside you, encourage him to go deeper or faster by pushing your heels into his buttocks. I know, this doesn’t sound particularly sexy in writing, but believe me when I say that it feels extremely sexy in action!

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9. Have sex to music

If you and your man just aren’t in the mood to get creative with the missionary position itself, try this little trick instead. Put on some rhythmic music and see what happens. I guarantee you it won’t take long before the two of you are moving to the beat of the music.

Rock music is best for this, RnB works well, too. Classical music, Heavy Metal, and Country music…not so much. Pull out those Barry White albums and let the rhythm take you to new pleasures.

10. Bend your knees underneath you

Finally, you can spice up your missionary sex positiob with a little bit of a more difficult trick. Bend your knees underneath you and spread your legs. Imagine this if you leaned backwards instead of forwards while you were doing it Doggy Style.

This position raises your hips, tests your muscles (giving you an increased orgasm), and gives him some extra depth. It’s better for those who are in shape, otherwise you might get a leg cramp.

You see, ladies, missionary is anything but boring! It should be embraced and enjoyed. So, how are you going to spice up your night?

10 Reasons Why Women Moan (Or Scream) During Sex

A couple of nights a week, I hear my next door neighbor having sex. At first, I honestly thought it was one of her little yappy dogs barking, but then I realized it was her moaning in pleasure. I could also hear her boyfriend smacking her on the ass, making her moan even more. It occurs to me that yelling, “Who’s your daddy?!” through the wall would be a bit inappropriate, although highly tempting, so I usually just bang on the wall a couple of times after they’ve finished their noisy sex and begun their noisy arguing. It seems to be their rhythm.

I also wonder if they ever hear me having sex on those rare occasions I get laid.

Do I moan? Yes. Do they hear it? I have no idea. But the real question is: Even if they do hear it, could I NOT moan? What causes women to moan when they have sex?

I’ve narrowed it down to these 10 reasons. While I know I’m probably missing a reason or two, this list is based on personal experience and interviews with other moaning women. I did not interview my neighbor; that would be awkward. Take a look at this list and see if one of these numbers is yours.

1. Automatic Response to Pleasure

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One of the most common reasons women moan during sex is simply because it’s an automatic response to pleasure. Just like sighing when you sink into a hot tub, the pleasure you get from sex can cause an audible and involuntary response.

2. Automatic Response to Pain

Of course, women also moan in pain. If your man is going a little too rough, or he’s hitting that place inside you that feels uncomfortable, or even if you’ve suddenly developed a leg cramp, you’re just as likely to moan in response to pain during sex just as you are in response to pleasure during sex.

3. To Increase Your Libido

It’s hard to move past the day and get over the stress of real life. Even during sex, some of those emotions can seep into your brain, or you could just be so overwhelmed with things to do that you’re busy concentrating on the grocery list and not the sex. Moaning is a way of getting your head back in the game so to speak. By moaning, you take your mind off your chores and put it back into the sex where it belongs—which is exactly where it should be.

4. To Make Him Feel Good

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Have you ever had sex with someone who was completely silent? It’s… well, it’s a letdown to be honest. I had a lover who never moaned in pleasure, never even made a noise during sex, and I couldn’t help but feel like I was doing something wrong or that he wasn’t enjoying it (even though he was). It’s weird when they’re silent.

Moaning is a way of reassuring your lover that he or she is pleasing you. You use all of your senses to have sex, and your audial senses should not be ignored! It’s important to make noises of pleasure so your partner isn’t put off thinking the wring thing by silence. Believe me, men love those little moans (and some even prefer the loud ones!).

Actually, you can't imagine how responsive men are just to the sound of your voice (and the naughty words that come out). And if you're not completely confident about your dirty-taking skills, the surest way to tell him how good he makes you feel is to moan louder (but in a more erotic, natural way… never make a guy wonder if you're faking it).

5. To Change His Sexual Tone

If you think of moaning as a way of expressing yourself without words, then it’s easy to see how moaning can change your man’s sexual rhythm. If you’re moaning in pleasure and then he starts doing something you don’t enjoy, you change your moan to more of an uncomfortable sound…and he changes his sex style back to something you like. It’s a way of guiding him without actually “telling” him what to do. He uses this method on you as well; it really works both ways.

6. To Hurry Things up

Some men are so aroused by your sex sounds that the more you give them, the faster they orgasm. I’ll admit: I’ve “faked” an orgasm once or twice by making some pleasurable noises for a man. It happens.

Sometimes the sex has just lasted so long you’re exhausted and want him to be finished already. Sometimes you’re just not getting off and want him to hurry up so you can get on with whatever it is you were doing. As much as we’d like to think sex is always perfect…it’s not. Moaning can increase his orgasm time when you need it.

7. To Slow Things Down

Of course, if you know how to do it right, you can also change the rhythm of your body and the sound of your moan so that your lover slows down before he orgasms too quickly! If you’ve ever had a lover who makes things a bit too quick, moaning can be a good way of shifting his rhythm to give you more time in bed.

8. To Make it Hotter

Sex is hot. Sex is wet. Sex is messy. Noisy, loud, raunchy sex is even hotter!

9. To Turn Him on Even More

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If your guy is having a hard time getting aroused, moaning softly in pleasure as he kisses you can give him just the nudge his libido needs to get into the moment and more in the mood. A soft moan of pleasure works wonders before you’ve even taken off your clothes. Better yet, see how crazy he goes when you moan while having him in your mouth (just one of the ways to make your blowjobs fantastic).

10. Because Silence is a Mood Killer

Finally, women moan during sex because silence is a mood killer. No, really it is. Plus, it takes a lot more work to keep quiet than it does to just release your inhibitions and enjoy yourself audibly.

Don’t be silent; express your pleasure. After all, don’t you like it when he moans for you?

Man Reveals: Why Do Men Like Anal Sex?

This is a question that countless men have been asked by their partners in some way shape or form. The answer they manage to come up with might be different every time. As a guy, it’s not easy to explain to a girl why you might want that. He may not really even realize why he feels the urge to do it or why he likes it.

Understanding instincts

In order to understand why some men crave different areas of the female body, we must first understand men themselves. Just like women and all other mammals on this planet, men are instinctual. They are hunters and explorers. They strive to be dominant, and they’re territorial.

Woman can be too—let’s not be sexist here—but the average man yearns to explore, conquer and extend their reach as far as it can go. Here lies the innate drive in men to scratch everything off the list and tick all of the boxes, especially when it comes to sex. It’s not just about physical stimulation—it’s about dominance.

That’s also where putting a certain substance on various surfaces comes from. It’s satisfying to dominate or claim some kind of ownership of your partner. That’s where extreme jealousy comes from, too. In a relationship, one partner or both can build up a sense of ownership of the other, and expectations can skyrocket.

Although counter-intuitive, I believe letting go of the sense of ownership of your partner in a relationship is the key to managing jealousy and controlling your attitude—that includes actions in the bedroom. I digress.

Not only do men gain pleasure from the act of dominating their partner, but also from their partner apparently getting pleasure from it, too.

We want our masculine prowess to be embraced. A woman sharing 100 percent of her body demonstrates a willingness to satisfy, and for a man, that knowledge can be incredibly arousing. Even if the woman doesn’t like anal sex, the act of doing it anyway may fulfill a primal urge.

Disclaimer: not all guys are like this. There are many men who embrace female dominance in a relationship, but let’s walk the beaten path here and continue talking about what the average fellow wants.

How does it compare with vaginal intercourse?

Speaking from personal experience, it’s not as good as vaginal or oral sex. Plus, occasionally, it can get a little gross for obvious reasons. However, it feels good because, after all, it’s still sex…kind of.

It feels different than other options. As a guy, sometimes you want to mix it up. When alcohol is involved, sometimes you want to do anything and everything all at once. That “I can’t believe we’re doing this!” moment is fun. There’s nothing wrong with getting kinky once in a while.

If it doesn’t feel any better, then why do guys still like it so much?

Aside from what we discussed about male urges, there is another psychological element in play: when there are no limits or boundaries to your sexual activities, there’s a certain feeling of sexual freedom that causes immense pleasure and satisfaction.

Feeling like you can do whatever you want and that your partner will participate is something the majority of guys aren’t accustomed to, but always want. Ruling nothing out is part of that.

I’m going to generalize even more here, but in a traditional setting, women control whether or not sex will take place. Men have urges day and night. A woman offering herself to a man, including all parts of her body, brings the man great satisfaction on more than one level.

In addition, as you undoubtedly know, many men love women’s butts. The attraction can include all of it—even the anus. Wanting to have anal sex might also be a consequence of the man’s fixation on the woman’s rear end.

Guys who have never tried it (actually never tried it) will be curious and probably want to give it a shot. Some guys never venture that far. Some think it’s disgusting and never want to do it at all. To each their own.

As an endnote, always be mindful of what you’re doing and be aware of how to do it properly. Avoid the risk of injury or any possible complications by doing a bit of research if you’re not familiar with how to do it the right way.

What are your thoughts on anal sex? Do you love it or hate it? More importantly, have you actually tried it before making your decision? Let us know in the comments below?

Secret Tips On How To Feel Sexier Instantly

Is there anything better than feeling sexy? Possibly, but let’s agree on it being one of the better things in life, shall we? At least I think so…and there are ways to feel sexy almost immediately.

Remind yourself of who you are

Sadly most of us get caught up in life – as we’re having exams, cleaning the house, putting the kids to bed, dashing off to work and so forth, we don’t always feel we have time to feel sexy. We leave it for Friday and Saturday night, if that. But sexiness is largely a state of mind and can be used at any time of day, anywhere.

Of course, it helps with a few props and accessories and personally I feel a lot sexier walking down Champs Elysees than attacking the sale at H&M. However, if I just stop to remind myself I’m vixen, I can even handle bargain shopping feeling like one.

So take a vow of sexiness and put on a bracelet, or something else, that will remind you every time you see it that you have, indeed, made a promise to feel sexy.

Slow down. Feel your sensuality. And move with it, because it will come out in your body movements and voice. Have you ever seen someone speaking at 90 miles an hour and coming across as sensual?

Imitate

I grew up in clogs in the Swedish countryside, so it took me some time to figure out this sexiness business. Whilst I always had a love of short skirts and leather pants, I can’t say that I was always feeling sexy. Especially as I’m rather skinny and far from those voluptuous Latinas that look like they could melt any man alive.

Maybe sexy is the wrong word here – I felt pretty sexy, on the outside, but I felt I lacked sensuality. So I realized I had to learn about sexy and sensual women, because surely it was more to it than having curves (and if it were the curves I’d be doomed to a life without sensuality).

Now, the way I gained inspiration was through books and movies. I saw women who had an air of sensuality about them. A sort of promise if you so like. It came out in the way they presented themselves, but all it really came down to was that promise – they knew they had something to offer a man.

A sexy dress can do a lot for you, but that smile with a promise, that hand resting on someone’s shoulder with a promise, your own hand touching your lips with a promise…that’s sensual.

There’s also a fine line you don’t want to cross. You want to be sexy and sensual, not a slut. The difference? You know your worth. You aren’t doing this as a desperate means of getting attention, you know your worth, that’s why you can smile with a promise because you have no intention of giving yourself away to the first man asking. Indeed, you don’t have to give yourself away at all. Sensuality is yours to own.

Films such as Like Water for Chocolate and Chocolat are very sensual, as is Miss Fisher in Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries (TV show). If you’re looking for sexy I’d say Nicole Kidman in Moulin Rouge does a pretty good job of it.

There are also books like Aphrodite by Isabel Allende, which will turn you on to the idea that it’s all about how we think about something that makes it sexual (several women in this book tried impressing their men with aphrodisiacs). Which leads me to the next point…

Anticipation

If you want to feel sexy, or make your man feel sexy, add a bit of tension; a bit of build up. The women Allende used to try her recipes for aphrodisiacs on came to the conclusion it was the thought behind the food that mattered, not the food itself.

If a man knows he will get aphrodisiacs for dinner, he’s sure to believe that he’ll get more than the food and the anticipation is what makes the dinner sensual.

The food can also be presented in a sensual manner, which, again, alludes to something other than food. If you whisper in someone’s ear that a truffle is an aphrodisiac, before feeding it to them…it’s sensual.

Whether you’re spreading rose petals on the bed covers, or preparing an aphrodisiac for dessert, you’re actively thinking about…sex. And of yourself as a temptress.

The trick is to incorporate this into your life, so that even if you aren’t dating someone, you are doing things that are sensual. You create a sensual bedroom, you have a sensual bath, you learn to cook sensual meals, you go lingerie shopping, you learn about the art of sex…

Knowledge is power

Knowing the art of sex immediately gives you the promise in your smile. You know you can satisfy a man. That will make you feel sexy. And remember – you don’t have to give it away, you just have to know it.

Thankfully for all of us there are bookstores filled with literature about sex and an impressive number of articles about sex, tantra and the likes online.

Knowing you know about the sexual arts will make you feel sexier. Pronto.

Touching your body

When you touch your body, what do you think about? Is it that you’re a divine sexy goddess, or that you need to get bread crumbs off your top?

You see, what you think affects how you feel and it will come across in your movements. Which is why, when you want to impress a man, you should always touch yourself as if you were a sexy goddess.

What you put on your body

From your perfume, to your lingerie, what you put on your body will make you feel a certain way. Of course, you can feel sensual wearing a sack, but it usually helps wearing something that feels sensual to you.

Innuendo

Say you spill something all over yourself on a date. Horrors. Or, maybe not… If you spill something, you can slowly use your napkin to clean up the mess, smile and say “I guess I shall have to take this off when I get home. Such a shame.”

Whilst thinking about sexily removing it when home. Which, of course, will make your date think about you taking it off, or him taking it off for you.

Sexy is a state of mind. If you feel sexy, you will act in a certain manner, wear certain clothes and have an inner confidence that you are sensual. It’s a subtle thing, but it comes across in everything you do. So remember: you are a sensual, sexy goddess. End of.