20 SEX POSITIONS THAT'LL GET HER OFF EVERY TIME

We know you want to please your lady (and they sure as hell want you to do it, too). But if you're like most guys, you probably settle for using just a few basic sex positions and call it a night. And that can get a little, well boring.

"Women know that most guys want them to reach O-land, and they don't want to disappoint," says Dorian Solot, a sex educator and co-author of I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide. "So all too often, women fake orgasms, or just let their partner assume they had one."

That's why we've compiled this list of mind-blowing sex positions, ranging from tried-and-true classics to awesomely exotic moves that will set your sex life on fire. Believe us: Both you—and she—will know that they work.

1. MISSIONARY

According to sex experts, women get the most pleasure out of basic missionary sex. "Interestingly, when we surveyed women, good old-fashioned missionary position was the overall favorite. There's nothing fancy about it, but women said they loved the closeness and the intimacy of having their partner's weight on them," says Solot.

But in order for missionary position to be most effective, make sure you're entering her at the correct angle, says Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza. "By going in diagonally—rather than straight in and out—there's more friction for clitorial stimulation, which is best, since that's how most women achieve orgasm."

2. REVERSE COWGIRL

In this position, the man is either lying down or in a sitting position, and the female straddles him backwards — facing his feet instead of his face. It's a key position that also allows easy access to the clitoris, says sexologist and sexuality educator Megan Andelloux. "Because of the easier clitoral access, this position is the one that is most likely to facilitate an orgasm because direct clitoral stimulation is easy to engage in."

3. DOGGIE STYLE

Doggie style is a great position for the woman because it allows her to have optimal control. "She is able to adjust her range of motion for an angle that feels best," says Amy Levine, a sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure. "He can likely stimulate her G-spot and have access to her clitoris with his hand, her hand or a toy, like a small bullet-shaped vibrator."

But make sure to use your hands for clitoral stimulation too while in the doggie style position, says sexologist Gloria Brame, Ph.D. "She will rarely have an orgasm if you're not doing something manually in front at the same time," she says.

4. GIRL ON TOP

Another position that allows her to have the most control of her orgasm is when she's the one on top, facing forward. But the position still needs to be a joint effort, Somoza explains. "You can help her by moving her hips up and down. It's a communication thing," she says. Levine adds that when the woman is on top, "she's in control of the depth and motion, as well as having easy access to her clitoris for pleasure.”

5. SPOONING

If your lady doesn't prefer deep penetration, Andelloux suggests spooning. It’s also good "if you're into lazy morning Sunday sex playtime. It concentrates on stimulation of the front portion of the vagina or rectum, which is where the most nerves are located in the genitals." Andelloux explains that spooning is pleasurable because it creates a tighter fit in the vagina and rectum, so if a woman is looking for more stimulation from her partner’s fingers or penis... spoon away.

6. CRISSCROSS

According to Marshall Miller, a sex educator and co-author of I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide, this is another great position for clitoral stimulation. "Both partners are lying down. The woman is on her back and the guy is on his side. She has her legs draped over his middle like a giant X," he says. "Since your bodies aren't squished against each other, either you or she can reach down to rub her clitoris, what most women need to reach the Big O."

7. THE PILLOW TECHNIQUE

Many sex experts agree that positions often become more pleasurable for a woman when a pillow or blanket is added to create a new angle of entry. In missionary, Levine says to "put a pillow under her tush to give a pelvic lift. That can also help the man rub her g-spot with his penis." Brame says it's a tip that is often underutilized, and that you can even use furniture or yoga props. "Certain angles for some women won't be comfortable," he says. "Ask her what is working for her.”

8. COITAL ALIGNMENT TECHNIQUE

This position, created by psychotherapist Edward Eichel, is considered by many to be the "greatest sex position in the world." Start in a normal missionary position with your full body weight on top of the woman, not resting on your elbows. Move forward so that the base of your penis (your pubic bone) is making direct contact with her clitoris. Her legs should be around your thighs and you should be moving together in a rhythmic, rocking motion. "Some swear that this position allows for the closest physical connection and the best clitoral stimulation based on his positioning," says Levine.

9. ANKLES UP

"When you're on top of somebody or flat, you can't always achieve full penetration," says Brame—which is why adjusting her leg positioning allows for deeper contact. "You have to put her ankles up over your shoulders. It allows you to go as deep inside of her as possible and hit her G-spot." The same deepness can also be achieved by her bending her knees or placing the soles of her feet on your chest.

10. KNEELING

This is a simple woman-on-top position where she's (duh) kneeling on an arm chair or bed, straddling you. "It's the best way for her to have control over penetration and when you both climax since she can slow down or speed up, grind and thrust at her own pace," Brame says. "Even women who don't necessarily want to be in control in bed might enjoy if their partner grips her arms or hips and helps steer their movements."

11. EDGE OF THE BED

Like the Ankles Up position, this encourages deep penetration since she's lying on her back with her hips at the edge of the bed, and you're entering from under her legs (which can rest on your torso or fall over the edge of the bed). However, it can be difficult to get comfortable if the bed is too low and your groin isn't in line with hers. "More likely, you'll need to lower yourself or bend over her to penetrate fully, but it's sexy on the edge of the bed because it feels like you couldn't actually wait to get to the pillow," Brame says. Plus, she gets a direct view of the action.

12. COWGIRL WITH A TWIST

This takes Cowgirl up a notch. She kneels and straddles you, while you're flat on your back. The twist is you bend your knees, supporting her butt. From here, she can push off your chest to help control as she slides up and down against your thighs. Because there's less stress on her legs and she's in control, she can delay your climax and get the right rhythm. Plus, you can grab onto her hips or thighs and meet each thrust.

13. THE BRIDGE

From Missionary position, sit up so your weight is supported on your ankles, knees spread wide. Have her lie on her back, feet flat on the bed. From here, she'll arch her hips into a low bridge position. "By arching to met your penis, you can join your bodies at the perfect angle and get maximum penetration," Brame says. Prop some pillows under her back to keep the position from becoming uncomfortable.

14. BELLY DOWN

This will present some new sensations since she's on bottom, lying face-down on the bed while you lie down on top of her (or hover above her in a semi-pushup position, entering from behind. Her legs should be straight and her hips slightly raised to meet you. This will put your penis right in line with her g-spot and give you a super snug fit. "Never hesitate to use a good water-based lube to help glide into positions," Brame advises; "you may not slide in her as easily as you do in Missionary." And like The Bridge, you can prop pillows underneath her abdomen to raise her vagina into a better angle; this is especially helpful if you have very different heights.

15. STANDING AGAINST A WALL

"This is one of the oldest, fastest ways to have a quickie," Brame says, and it works best when she's the one against the wall. With her shoulders and back resting against the wall for support, have her lean her pelvis forward and wrap a leg around your waist to control your speed and penetration. "It seems like an easy position, but it's really best for similar-height lovers (a really tall guy with a really short girl will find challenging, and vice versa), and if she has strong legs," she adds.

16. BENT-AT-THE-WAIST

Stand behind her, then have her hinge and bend at the waist while you enter from behind. Bending at the waist tightens her vaginal walls and creates more friction; plus penetration is easy from this angle. Though Brame advises: "This is best performed when a woman has some kind of support in front of her, like a table, sink, or piece of furniture to hang on to." It'll actually work in your favor if she's anchored to something; one hand can grip her hip for support while the other reaches around to stimulate her clitoris.

17. MISSIONARY WITH A TWIST

As the name implies, you'll both turn onto your sides from the missionary position, using your arms to supporting each other and intertwining your legs to get more leverage and the best fit. "The charm of this position is that you move very slowly and try to stay connected the whole time, essentially rolling to the side while still having intercourse," Brame says. She'll also have constant clitoral stimulation, which is so important for the female orgasm.

18. CROSS-LEGGED

You don't need to be flexible enough to sit completely cross-legged like a pretzel, you just need to be able to get into a seated position with your erection facing up. From here, she'll sit in your lap, facing you and wrapping her legs around your hips/waist. You'll achieve maximum penetration and she can be fully in control either riding you or rocking her hips while she holds onto your shoulders for support.

19. THE SPIDER

Both of you are seated on the bed, facing-to-face, with your legs pointed toward one another, leaning on your hands for support (imagine you're doing a crab walk). Next, have her walk her feet over your body so they're on either side of your hips and flat on the bed. Her hips should be positioned between your spread legs, giving you full access to penetrate. Instead of thrusting, you'll rock back and forth. The beauty of this position is you can still maintain eye contact while viewing the action, and she can control the angle, speed, and motion to climax.

20. THE PRETZEL

An imaginative position, you combine bits and pieces of Face-to-Face and Doggie-Style. As she's lying on her left side, you'll kneel and straddle her left leg while she bends her right leg around your waist. "You should do positions because they're fun and make you happy," Brame says. "Feel free to follow your natural inclination to find better, hotter sensations, which can mean sitting up, rolling over, pretzeling or doggy-styling." In short, it's all about what keeps you engaged and satisfied in bed. And you won't know what does that until you're hot and heavy in the midst of it.

5 OF THE BEST SEX TOYS FOR COUPLES

Look, we get it: Sex toys can can be intimidating as hell. But if you've sworn off sex toys for whatever reason, you're missing out—especially if you're avoiding using them with your partner.

Why? Sex toys can not only "bring fresh energy into a monotonous sex life," but also "help couples or individuals achieve orgasm in easier and more satisfying ways," says Jen Elmquist, M.A., L.M.F.T., a relationship expert and host of Evine After Dark.

Still, bringing a sex toy into the bedroom can be daunting, particularly for the uninitiated. And that's why communication is key. "People don’t want to offend their partner by suggesting that they aren’t turned on by their partner and need an enhancement," explains Logan Levkoff, M.S., Ph.D., a sex and relationships expert. Her recommendation? Suggest "a toy to 'try together' for a 'different and enhanced partner experience' for both of you."

For men specifically, it's especially important to "understand that if your female partner wants to use a vibrator, it's not a replacement for you," explains Elmquist. "As a matter of fact, often the more women are aroused, the higher their sexual desire."

Most important, Elmquist adds, "once you can lay outdated beliefs and thoughts to rest, there is a big world to explore that offers couples adventure and excitement."

Here are five of the most seductive, orgasm-inducing sex toys for every budget and every type of couple—from novice to the more experienced.

WHY YOU SHOULD CONSIDER MAKING HER ORGASM DURING FOREPLAY, BEFORE SEX

r. Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., psychotherapist/sex therapist: Always make sure your partner comes first.

Why?

Well, first, it takes all the pressure off you to try to make her orgasm through intercourse, which is unusual and very difficult. Almost all women need direct clitoral stimulation to come. (If she is orgasming through intercourse, she’s either already turned on and her clitoral roots are being stimulated or she’s come once, so she’s more sensitive and can come again more easily.)

Second, letting her come first gives you more time to enjoy your own pleasure without worrying about how long you last or feeling guilty if you let go too soon.

And third, it gives her a pleasurable experience where she can enjoy intercourse without pressure.

Dr. Michael Aaron, Ph. D., psychotherapist/sex counselor: There’s no tried-and-true formula—it really depends on her.

Some guys feel less anxious about their own performance if they know they’ve already helped their partner come. Plus, some women feel very sensitive after an orgasm and need a break, while others can just keep coming and coming.

It’s all about what works for her. Why don’t you ask her?

IT'S NATIONAL ORGASM DAY!

July 31 is National Orgasm Day. And, instead of celebrating in the comfort of your home, you’re stuck reading about it at work. (Just don’t get caught trolling the Internet or daydreaming—that’s an awkward scenario to explain to your boss.)

We're not sure who started the day-of-all-national-days (though we'd put money on condom and sex toy companies), or where it started, but one thing is certain: You don’t want your partner to fake an orgasm today. No sir. You want her to have the most mind-blowing orgasm ever. And you should, too. So, we’ve compiled our best content from surveys, experts, and real women to give you endless ways to help you both climax. 

First thing’s first—oral sex. You can’t just jump into bed and expect her to orgasm five minutes later without any kind of warmup stimulation. To make sure you’re making her eyes roll for all the right reasons, check out these do’s and don'ts.

Special events like holidays, vacations, and birthdays call for some spectacular sex. But an adventurous romp can quickly turn into an awkward game of Twister real fast, so if you’re looking to try something out of the norm, check out these stories:

And sometimes you just need tried-and-true advice sans the bells and whistles. For all your basic tips and fool-proof information, read here. 

The Surprising Trait That Could Make It Easier to Have Orgasms

Does a better sense of smell translate into a more satisfying sex life? It might, based on the results of a small new study.

Researchers writing in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that people with more perceptive noses also had more pleasurable sexual experiences. And women who had a strong sensitivity to odors reported having more orgasms during sexual intercourse than did women who were less sensitive to scent.

The study consisted of 28 men and 42 women (half were on hormonal birth control) between ages 18 and 40. Odor sensitivity was determined by blindfolding participants and asking them to sniff felt pens infused with fragrance. They were then given questionnaires about three topics: sexual desire, sexual performance, and sexual experience.

The researchers found that sexual desire and performance were not necessarily associated with odor sensitivity. But there was a positive correlation between having a heightened sense of smell and sexual experience.

“A high olfactory sensitivity was associated with reports of more pleasant sexual experience” for both men and women, according to the study. Men with a higher sensitivity, however, had a more significant association with “pleasantness of sexual interactions,” suggesting that they might rely on smell more than their female counterparts.

Researchers also discovered that women with high olfactory sensitivity had a greater frequency of orgasms than women whose noses weren't as sensitive.

“The perception of body odors such as vaginal fluids, sperm, and sweat seems to enrich the sexual experience,” researchers concluded, citing similar studies conducted in the past. “Taking this into account, we suggest that the reported relationship between olfactory sensitivity and experienced pleasantness of partnered sexual interaction may be mediated by an arousal evoked by body odors of the sex partner.”

Before you try to boost your sense of smell with the goal of boosting your sex life, keep in mind that the study only found a link between a fine-tuned sense of smell and better sex. It didn't prove how odor can influence sex, nor did it suggest what less odor-perceptive people can do to boost their sense of smell and possibly improve their sex life.

So while it's all pretty fascinating, if you're hoping to have more pleasurable sex and more frequent orgasms, turn to expert-backed tactics that really do work—like masturbating more, exploring sex toys, and developing clearer communication with your partner.

Here’s How This Mom Says She Experienced an 'Orgasmic' Childbirth

When we think of orgasm-inducing activities, childbirth lands at the very bottom of the list. But it turns out that some women can reach climax during labor. Just ask Amandine Mangin, a French mother of two who told news.com.au this week that the birth of her second child was intensely pleasurable, not painful.

“It felt like I was having deep intense sex but without the erotic mindset,” the 29-year-old told the news outlet. “It is a borderline kind of pleasure. This borderline pleasure we may feel while making love.”

Mangin’s birthing experience didn’t feel so amazing just by chance. Mangin said she was determined to make childbirth a better experience after she endured an extremely painful birth when she delivered her first child. So she trained as a prenatal yoga instructor and researched tools that would help her “ride the waves of childbirth.”

One of those tools included shifting the way she thought of labor. “Basically it is getting free of old programming and beliefs—such as ‘childbirth is painful’—and updating my brain with positive affirmations,” she said. Other tools she used included meditation, relaxation techniques, and spiritual chants. “I also prepared my perineum with oil massage,” she added.

The first three months of Mangin's second pregnancy were not easy: She had severe morning sickness that lasted all day long. “But as soon as the third month was over, I was blossoming like never before,” she said. 

That ‘blossoming’ continued even as she felt the first contractions. “I was actually nicely surprised when I felt the first waves! They were pleasurable!” she said. She even went for a walk outside before heading to the hospital, where she decorated her room with candles, essential oils, and music. During labor, Mangin kissed her husband to kickstart production of the hormone oxytocin (which can trigger calm and serenity).

Mangin believes women first need to adjust their mindset in order to be able to enjoy labor. “If you can’t imagine enjoying childbirth, it’s going to be hard to get a pleasurable birth,’ she said. 

And she isn't alone. According to orgasmicbirth.com, many women can orgasm during labor. The site references a handful of MD-approved resources, like documentaries and books, that support the possibility of pleasurable labor, also called "ecstatic birth." There's little science on the topic, but one 2013 survey found that midwives reported witnessing orgasms during about 0.3% of births, according to livescience.com.

If you’re still not convinced that orgasmic childbirth is a real thing, you’re hardly alone. An overwhelming majority of women would say childbirth feels pretty damn uncomfortable, at best. Our take? If you have an orgasmic birth, we are extremely jealous of you. If you don’t have one (which is probably way more likely), we feel your pain. Literally. 

You're Not into Your Partner's Sex Fantasies—Now What?

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So, you asked your partner what he or she fantasizes about and you're feeling a little...uncomfortable about it. That's OK.

Sexual fantasies are the stuff of fascination and confusion. When you're thinking about something strange or taboo, it's easy to feel like you're gross and weird. And turned on somehow? Whatever your sexual fantasy is, it is perfectly normal. We think about plenty of things that we may never want to try in real life (or maybe we do).

Are you wishing you could take back the invitation to open up? Perhaps your partner is into gang bangs up in their noggin and you're thinking, "Hm. Nope." Maybe you thought you'd get the threesome scene of your dreams only to be met with vicious bondage. Sound familiar?

It happens. Sometimes we think we're ready to hear the erotically dark things going on in our partner's mind only to realize we may have crossed a line. It goes from a super sexy idea to icky feelings all over. So, here is what to do when you don't share your partner's sex fantasy.

Imagination doesn't always mean exploration

The thing about sexual thoughts is that that's exactly what they are: thoughts. Remember that.

It doesn't matter how messed up or odd something may seem. "Fantasies never need to be acted out," Sari Locker, sex educator at Columbia University and author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex, tells Brides. "If someone feels uncomfortable with the idea of a fantasy, then it should not be acted out."

It's OK to tell your partner this. Should you say, "Ew, babe. That's so f-ing weird?" Nope. Perhaps you go with something like, "That's interesting. I don't think I'd want to do that in real life, but I'm happy it turns you on." You don't have to talk about it again if you don't want to talk about it again. Maybe you just need to sleep on it—or maybe you need 20 years.

Fantasies, no matter what they are, are normal. We think about all kinds of stuff we don't want to do in real life. We may have a ravishment or dominatrix fantasy, and that doesn't mean we actually want to become a leather-clad dominatrix. It's just fodder for the imagination.

Approach your partner with empathy

In a relationship, there is no room for judgment. We mean it. It doesn't matter how off-putting you find your partner's sexual thoughts; you are not allowed to shame them. Would you want them to shame you for something they find unsavory? Obviously not.

Come to them with empathy. You asked for your partner to be vulnerable. It takes a lot of guts to share our sexual fantasies openly. Honor their openness and be kind. Let them know that you love them and appreciate their sharing. Now, share a fantasy of your own. It's fantastic that the two of you can be open. Be grateful for that. So many people would kill for that in their relationship.

Communication is a good thing

Communicating is a huge factor in relationship health. Even if this was slightly (or a maybe a lot) TMI, remember this. Being able to share openly with your partner is part of the relationship contract. You should feel able to open up about all the weird things you've thought about sexually and your partner should have that same privilege.

"When spouses talk about their sexual fantasies, they learn very intimate things about each other," Locker explains. "The more your share your sexual fantasies, the more your spouse will understand your thoughts about sex."

Keep an open mind. You may not be into what you've heard, but it is just one more step towards open honesty. You'll be stronger as a couple.

Let it go

Don't get bogged down by the creepy crawly feelings that came from this newfound "knowledge." Imagination is imagination. Let. It. Go. Move on. Seriously.

"It's important to be able to move on after you hear a fantasy, without it sticking in your mind all the time," Locker tells us. "Simply enjoy the sex life you've always had, without feeling pressured by the fantasy." We know it's easier said than done, but you've definitely overcome harder things in your relationship than your partner's thing for clowns.

Explore an alternative fantasy together

To help with letting go, move on to something else. Watch some porn together. Find common ground. There may be a delicious fantasy you both share just around the corner, waiting to be discovered. Perhaps you'd want to try role play as a doctor and patient? Perhaps you haven't given anal pleasure enough thought. You don't have to do any of it, but it's fun to feel around the boundaries.

You are not obligated to share your partner's desires, but you are obligated to love them no matter their masturbation material. Don't yuck anyone's yum. Life is too short for that.